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  • I think of them as on the same spectrum.

    A thin skinned person, is someone when you stab verbally or try to otherwise harm them in a non-physical manner, it goes straight through, and they are hurt by it. It affects their confidence, behaviour and health.

    A thick skinned person, is someone you can insult, and they can dismiss the meaning of the words, and be unaffected by the intended harm.

    But that is not mutually exclusive with going “wtf, did you just try to stab me?”. They are opposites, in the sense that the word describes whether malicious words or actions can “pass through” and have the intended effect.

    But if someone tries to shoot me, and I’m wearing armor that means it won’t kill me, that still leaves the fact that they tried to shoot me. That I was able to survive it does not make the attempt on my life ok. Being thick skinned, or “wearing armor”, doesn’t mean you react to attacks with inaction.

    It describes whether you suffer harm when under fire. Not how you behave in reaction to it.

    A lot of people think of being thick skinned as synonymous with turning the other cheek. But being able to take BS doesn’t mean you have to passively allow it.


  • You don’t sound thin skinned.

    Having a thick skin doesn’t mean being unbothered by people trying to walk over you, and thereby letting them.

    I get accused of being thinskinned sometimes because of starting a confrontation over a problem or behaviour I’ve noticed, but that makes no sense. I can push for change precisely because I’m unbothered by the stress of working against the status quo.

    But like others said, you don’t always need to convince. If you say you won’t cover a task because it’s not your responsibility, then there is nothing to discuss. If they expect a task to be done even when you said it won’t, that is not your problem.

    It’s theirs.



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    I got a big usb hub and stopped caring about this.

    Having the ports at the front of my desk where I can plug things in and out more easily is nicer, too.

    Obvoisly some stuff benefits from being plugged in “directly” but most things don’t. In normal use you almost never max out what a single port can do.