I guess the way I’m thinking about it is that just because the third party doesn’t know it’s poly, doesn’t mean it isn’t poly to the people in the primary couple. It’s unethical and dishonest, but it is a situation where some of the people involved are being non-monogamous.
Maybe she’s poly, who knows.
It’s not poly if you don’t communicate that you’re poly with the people you’re saying.
Why not? That sounds like a vegan rule: you’re not vegan unless you tell people you’re vegan.
It’s about consent of the other parties involved.
I think that’s what people call “ethical non-monogamy”.
Polyamory is a type of ethical non-monogamy.
I think atro’s point is that non-ethical polyamory can exist. It shouldn’t be done, but can, and is still a type of polyamory.
I mean, yeah you can do polyamory in an unethical way. But it isn’t really polyamory if the poly part is a secret to the people involved.
I guess the way I’m thinking about it is that just because the third party doesn’t know it’s poly, doesn’t mean it isn’t poly to the people in the primary couple. It’s unethical and dishonest, but it is a situation where some of the people involved are being non-monogamous.
Marriage is a type of ethical monogamy.
Oh I know plenty of married polyamorous people.
I also know plenty of unethical married monogamous people
Maybe she was just cheating on her boyfriend over the Internet, who knows.
Maybe she was a dog. Who knows.
Maybe it’s maybelline
Wish them all the best.