I literally don’t carry condoms in my wallet. You can see in that comment thread that its my quarters for getting a cart at Aldi. I am biologically male, but that doesn’t make me a man. I also sit down to pee and have boobs. My relationship is with gender is more than a little bit complicated. It also does not matter to the argument, men are allowed to criticize people’s behavior towards women, and it’d be dumb to argue they can’t.
And yes, telling what people mean over the internet is hard, which is why I don’t suggest that someone is doing something wrong when I don’t know what they mean, and instead ask, like I asked you.
And to be very clear, assigning my intentions or motives is also a dick thing to do; I did actually mean that he’s an asshole because he’s being dismissive of someone’s frustrations. Its not helped by the fact that he’s being dismissive of a uniquely afab experience and saying he has it worse as a man, but the way he engages with her is shitty entirely independent from the lens of gender. I think that if you hear someone’s frustrations and respond with “wow, my problem is way bigger than yours” you’re an emotionally and interpersonally incompetent jerk.
I literally did not say that women should be offended by this, that is an interpretation on your part, and going around calling people out based on your assumptions of them is a jerk thing to do.
And to reiterate, your callout is much more an example of speaking for others than “wow, that guy lacks any empathy and is being shitty to her”
This entire exchange has been entirely unnecessarily hostile. Have a nice day.
No it’s not. if we’re talking about the fake circumstance of the comic as being a reality, then shouldn’t it be up to the woman to say that line of conversation or action is uncomfortable? We’re all individuals right?
I literally don’t carry condoms in my wallet. You can see in that comment thread that its my quarters for getting a cart at Aldi. I am biologically male, but that doesn’t make me a man. I also sit down to pee and have boobs. My relationship is with gender is more than a little bit complicated. It also does not matter to the argument, men are allowed to criticize people’s behavior towards women, and it’d be dumb to argue they can’t.
And yes, telling what people mean over the internet is hard, which is why I don’t suggest that someone is doing something wrong when I don’t know what they mean, and instead ask, like I asked you.
And to be very clear, assigning my intentions or motives is also a dick thing to do; I did actually mean that he’s an asshole because he’s being dismissive of someone’s frustrations. Its not helped by the fact that he’s being dismissive of a uniquely afab experience and saying he has it worse as a man, but the way he engages with her is shitty entirely independent from the lens of gender. I think that if you hear someone’s frustrations and respond with “wow, my problem is way bigger than yours” you’re an emotionally and interpersonally incompetent jerk.
I literally did not say that women should be offended by this, that is an interpretation on your part, and going around calling people out based on your assumptions of them is a jerk thing to do.
And to reiterate, your callout is much more an example of speaking for others than “wow, that guy lacks any empathy and is being shitty to her”
This entire exchange has been entirely unnecessarily hostile. Have a nice day.
No it’s not. if we’re talking about the fake circumstance of the comic as being a reality, then shouldn’t it be up to the woman to say that line of conversation or action is uncomfortable? We’re all individuals right?