I have decided to write down the reasoning behind me not (yet) closing my Facebook account. Which I really want to do, but feel like I cannot (yet).

My background: software developer.

What I use Facebook for: to keep up to date with family and friends.

In other words: I do not need “outside” people to see my posts. Not everything has to be shared with everyone for me.

I have noticed a lot of people opening up bluesky accounts “because it is not meta”, (which is a good thing, obviously).

The only issue is that the fediverse is a twitter (I refuse the name X) platform. Everything is public. On friendica, I can at least control who follows me, but I cannot determine who can see my posts.

So in my case, what happens is that some people might open a bsky/fediverse account, realize that everything is public and not use it again.

Why does the fediverse not have a privacy control to limit who can see and interact with your posts? While I do realize that with the Federation protocol everything is sort of public, this is the thing that keeps me from moving from fb to fediverse.

Edit: Holy crap guys, thank you for all the responses. The fediverse is aliiiive.

Too much to respond to, but:

1: yes i know fb is evil 2: as soon as the friend updates end, i stop scrolling. No desire to see all the stupid diy “tips”. 3: yes it sounds lame to use it to keep updated, but there is quite some distance between me and my friends and family 4: even if mastodon has the ability to not make posts public, every node admin can access the database. And I think that goes for every Federated platform, diaspora included.

  • tpihkal@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    19 days ago

    I still use Facebook for family and friends. They aren’t going to switch and would sooner leave social media altogether.

    I spend about five minutes or less a day on FB but I only check my friends feed. Aside from that, I don’t enjoy the majority of the content I see on FB and choose not to engage with it.

    • mbirth@lemmy.mlEnglish
      11·
      19 days ago

      I’ve setup an automatic redirect from the FB start page to:

      https://www.facebook.com/?filter=all&sk=h_chr

      This is the feed from followed people only - sorted by date, most recent first.

      That’s the only sane way of using FB. Sadly, there doesn’t seem to be a similar option in their mobile apps.

      • guy_threepwood@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        19 days ago

        StopTheMadness on iOS allows redirects (and I’m sure other extensions do too) but it doesn’t actually take you to that page; it just directs back to the regular homepage.

        Using the website (with an ad blocker) is marginally better than the app already. I hated the app in the past as I was convinced it was draining my battery unnecessarily…and it turns out that was a deliberate social experiment which filled me with rage.

        Event listings is why I still use it, though. Friends, gigs, etc. I’ve tried to get friends to use Partiful instead at least but that doesn’t work well enough, and even that has issues.