Go by public transport so you can have a drink to help get through it and if that isn’t enough you can still leave.
I wish my home town had public transportation
it’s taxi time
Gonna have to find a tractor on uber
self driving tractors are a thing 😆
and they’re expensive as fuck.
like not even including the tractor itself, just the self-driving attachments alone, plus the subscription fee to use them…
10k for this one https://emeraldbayagdynamics.squarespace.com/store/p/fjdat1autosteersystem
Oh only 5k for this https://store.handsfreefarm.com/
And do not park in or near the driveway, you will get blocked in then you’ll have to spend half an hour (at best) finding random people and having them move their car so you can leave
Way ahead of you: they can’t even see my car from the house. This way, it’s possible to vanish long before anyone figures it out.
Show up late so you can leave early.
The real pro move is to carpool with like minded people with a kid.
“Oh, I would love to stay but John’s son is so fussy and they are my ride. It was great seeing you, we should do this again”
“It was great seeing you again”
“but… You just got here five minutes ago”
“SO great…”
Caution, this only works reliably with parents with younger kids, the older their youngest the less this works lol
I dunno, teens and adult children can be fussy too.
I’m 54, and I’m fussy.
Can confirm. 42 and fussy. And my face is fuzzy too.
Public transport is nice too “ah sorry I’ve gotta catch my bus, it was lovely to see you bye!”
Bring snacks secret ones.
Protip: do this but do NOT bring a whiskey flask or edibles. Yeah, it may take the edge off, but you may need your wits about you.
The edibles are for when you have to stay the night ☺️
Ah sweet, so I can stare at the ceiling until 3am when I hit the bed 4 hours prior
Try a little less.
It also gives you a retreat space if you’d like to stay, but want half an hour to yourself midway through.
Then you can deal with the “It might be rude for me to leave now. I’ll just stay a little longer.” “Okay, just 15 more minutes.” “Okay, at the top of the hour, I’ll leave.” “Someone just got here, so I’ll stay another half hour so they don’t think I’m leaving just because they got here.”
Irish good byes are the best way to go.
One of my favorites
No matter where I am, I always have a sketch in my head as to what “leaving” would be like. How long it would take in total, then for each leg:
- Stand up
- Pick up coat
- “Welp.”
- Put on coat
- Walk to door
- Open door
- Make one last witty comment before closing door behind me
- Walk to car
- Open car door
- Sit down
- Foot on brake
- Turn key to START
- When engine is running, release ignition key to ON position
- Seatbelt
- Steering wheel
- click Reverse
- Release brake
- Rear view while backing up
- Steer onto street
- Apply brake
- click click Drive
- GO
This is obviously different if I’m somewhere where I have not taken my own car and have to depend on alternate transportation, whether that be:
- Public transit
- Catch a ride with someone else
- Rideshare/taxi
- Walking
- Rental bike/e-bike/e-scooter
- Canal boat
- Slip-N-Slide
- Pneumatic tube
- Quantum tunnelling
- Window
- Magic[k]
- Hiding until everyone else leaves
- Go to sleep
I’ve got a pretty nice system.
1: PANIC
B- Go
You may notice there’s no conversation before the final step. This is because my anxiety doesn’t allow me much talking until I can decompress.
It’s worked so far.
Having a dog helps too as you have a plausible excuse to leave and a conversation topic.
But then I have to pay and care for a dog. I’ll just not put myself in either situation.
Neighbors’ dog that you’re taking care of for the week¹ works as well.
¹ no actual neighbors’ dog required
Just say you gotta shit then leave without saying goodbye to anybody.
Just
say you gottashit on the front porch, then leave without saying goodbye to anybody.
“I have massive diarrhea, gotta run!”
I guess I’m lucky since I enjoy spending time with my family and haven’t had to consider things like in op
