Sorry if this doesn’t belong here.

I’m going through an absolute nightmare of a dental problem (probably hairline fractured tooth, very infected, whole face swollen) that I put off treating sooner because American healthcare especially in rural areas like mine is absolutely atrocious - impossibly long wait lists and unbelievably expensive. But I finally made it to the dentist today, only for xrays to come back inconclusive so they couldn’t pull the problem tooth. Which is fair (I too was shocked by the X-rays) but omg does this suck. I now have to wait 10 days for the antibiotics to bring the swelling down for another X-ray and treating the tooth.

Luckily despite the incomprehensible level of pain im in I was able to make enough tip $ this past weekend to pay for my care. So I don’t need financial help.

But im so fucking alone and in so much pain I’m crying my eyes out. I just want a hug or maybe some cute animal vids / pics of your cute pets or something. I lost my dog to a tragedy back in 2020 and miss the snuggles. Please just take my mind off this pain and help me feel less alone.

Thank you so much.

  • christian [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    10·
    11 days ago

    I feel like I’m in a very similar boat right now, so I need to take this opportunity to send you an e-hug.

    hug

    I’ve now hit two weeks straight in a hospital following a five-week stay in a different hospital starting in November. I had to follow that stay with a permanent move where I left my entire life, including my best friend Roto-Borola, behind. There’s so much uncertainty going forward for me regarding both my sickness and for my life afterwards, and right now there’s a lot of physical pain that I can’t seem to learn how to manage.

    I am fortunate enough to have good people pulling for me, but I still always feel like I need a hug so badly. Google has once again knocked out newpipe so I will have to wait for an update to get my music escape back (okay not true, but I am far too stubborn to ever return to using youtube without a frontend), and sometimes when I just try to escape by shitposting online I get rightfully called out as a jackass and want to hide in a hole.

    I know I just turned your thread about you into me, the e-hug is the important part of this post. But also have this low-quality photo of that time I was typing at my desk and Roto-Borola fell asleep sitting up against the wall next to me like he was a person:

    edit: Please feel free to send dms if you need to unload, although I’ve no coherent sleep schedule so replies may or may not take time. I don’t enjoy hearing about unhappiness, but I think it would be good for my soul to feel like I’m trying to help someone rather than just being a burden.

    • inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
      5·
      10 days ago

      Omg that cat is a mood. I’m sorry you’re also going through a painful medical condition. It’s so hard. I’ve been wailing like a baby from the pain all night since my dental block wore off.

      • christian [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        4·
        10 days ago

        Yeah, your post here really resonated with me, thank you for allowing me to hijack to unload.

        Medical pain can be a nightmare, and I find I become a lot less understanding and forgiving when it gets really bad, which I really don’t like to see come out of me. Like even if I know I’m unreasonable and nothing can be done but wait, as time goes on I feel an increasing desparation to trick my brain into thinking I’m trying.

        I’ve also understood for a while that I overapologize way way too much but I am really feeling the effects right now because of how much that waters down my words when an apology is truly needed.

        And yes, I miss that little asshole with all my heart.

        • inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
          2·
          10 days ago

          I worked this past weekend (it’s the biggest holiday period in my industry) and I was such a dick from the pain and yet I still made good tips, enough to pay for the insanely expensive cost of dental care here in the US.

          I’m so short with people when I’m hurting.

          I too over apologize and feel like I’ve been a huge burden on friends especially this past year when life events triggered major PTSD problems. I even lost some friends out of it :(

            • inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
              2·
              5 days ago

              Hey thanks for thinking of me. Ugh, I’m making it slowly but surely. Was in the ER 3 times and the dentist twice, tons of antibiotics and IV antibiotics. IV steroids and painkillers. Calling an oral surgeon tomorrow morning as soon as they open…. Also it’s confirmed now that I fractured my tooth, probably when I took a hit to the head.

              Pain is still there but not so bad. My tooth erupted like mt st Helen’s lol. But at least the pressure isn’t on the nerve anymore. Multiple abscesses….

    • inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
      3·
      10 days ago

      Ooo I wonder if it will be a snowy winter where that is filmed. By me it’s a legend that if they’re really fuzzy it’s gonna be cold and snowy!