I donā€™t usually ever talk about things like this, especially to strangers and I will probably delete it eventually butā€¦.

Iā€™m 21. And from like age 8-20 I had a problem with stealing. And it was not because I necessarily needed to but I would usually just take candy from stores. And as stupid as sounds, thatā€™s literally the only reason why I did itā€¦because I wanted candy. Only time I took something I actually needed were some batteries and a phone charger but nothing beyond just that. I also took money from my classmates lockers and I even once almost took someoneā€™s iPod, but I was so afraid that I ended up giving it back the next day. But whatā€™s even worse is the fact that I have taken some of my brotherā€™s birthday/Christmas money that he keeps in a stash. Rough estimate at least $250. Could be less. And yes I do feel horrible about it all. And I wish I could go back in time and have never done it to begin with. Fast forward to now I have successfully fought off the urge to shoplift because I know how bad it can be for your career if you get caught. Iā€™m currently a full time college student so I donā€™t work. My dad gives me a certain amount of spending money every week to kind of help me. And I have been putting a bit of it back in my brotherā€™s stash as restitution. And no I havenā€™t told my brother because we do have a good relationship and heā€™s one of the closest people to me. I appreciate any advice. Feel free to call me a pos as well.

Edited Update: thanks for the advice and support. So basically after going back and forth about it I decided to tell my mom pretty much what I told this thread. I didnā€™t go too deep into detail in terms of listing every single thing I took but I told her enough to know whatā€™s going on. Surprisingly, she didnā€™t get angry about it. Disappointed, yes. But I know she was glad I told her. She reminded me in her humorous fashion that she ā€œreserves the right to get mad.ā€ So this weekend we plan on going to the bank to get money out of my savings and give it to my brother. Right now, heā€™s at school in a difference city and wonā€™t be back until Spring break. Thatā€™s when I plan on telling him and giving him the money and will offer to buy him lunch afterwards. I do feel better now that my mom knows but the mission isnā€™t accomplished until my brother knows. Like I said, him and I are fairly close and we rarely fight over anything besides petty stupid stuff, so I donā€™t know how he will react. Prayers and good luck would be appreciated as well as any additional advice.

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    9 hours ago

    Kant would argue that you universalize all forms of theft by stealing so if we ever see stealing as immoral then it is wrong to do as it fails the metric of the application of the categorical imperative. I mean I donā€™t buy into Kantian morality but if one did he might make less of a distinction between them.

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      4 hours ago

      (Your comment is hidden on the main post weirdly)

      I view stealing more in kharmic sense: if you steal from me, I should be able to steal from you. Retailers legal theft by price gouging shouldnā€™t be overlooked just because its legal.