our cis het dude friends come with us!!! just make friends with queer people!!! in fact you should be offering to escort as many trans friends/comrades as you can so they can have a safe fun night out. learn to throw a punch and look intimidating and be the cis het body guard of the group, (literally walk every single person to thier cars, especially your trans friends, even queer spaces can be dangerous) its an important part of the ecosystem and after hanging out with queer people long enough you may not be cishet after a while.