I dont even know, I just don’t have issues with being creepy around ppl I find attractive or am crushing on or have been dumped by, I don’t have to repeat mantras about “shitting where I eat” and “being normal”
How is every thread on bear site about this topic like this aaaa im recieving wayy too much psychic damage from this thread relative to how little sleep I have got in last 72 hrs
*Edit: to be clear, I say this as an AuDHD-haver cuz the “being normal” stuff rly bothers me sometimes cuz it’s so often just veiled ableism, idk what to make of it in this case entirely but yeh
It’s not ableism. Autism doesn’t give license to act in a way that makes coworkers uncomfortable. I guess I could use more careful language comrade but I’m sorry, I’m not gonna sanction acting like a creep because you’re autistic. Either ask someone out or find a dating pool where pining and stuff like that is acceptable. It’s not work and it’s not your org. Be professional.
I’ll say tho, sorry for the “Be normal” - I recognize that normalcy is contingent, but in the workplace being normal is about respect to your fellow worker. If you build up this relationship for months in your mind, the denouement is likely going to be toxic. While there’s places that can be fine, in a workplace you’re putting your coworker in a position where she/he has to decide if they want to keep seeing the person who has been carrying a torch for them every day or not. Yes there’s HR to smooth things over sometimes, but I think it’s still just unfair to you and the other person if you involve them in a long and twisty psychic obsession at a place they need to work at to pay rent, etc. we don’t live in communism where they can just get easily reassigned.
Hexbear.net having a normal one
Im os fuckin normls god i love being normaal*
I dont even know, I just don’t have issues with being creepy around ppl I find attractive or am crushing on or have been dumped by, I don’t have to repeat mantras about “shitting where I eat” and “being normal”
How is every thread on bear site about this topic like this aaaa im recieving wayy too much psychic damage from this thread relative to how little sleep I have got in last 72 hrs
*Edit: to be clear, I say this as an AuDHD-haver cuz the “being normal” stuff rly bothers me sometimes cuz it’s so often just veiled ableism, idk what to make of it in this case entirely but yeh
It’s not ableism. Autism doesn’t give license to act in a way that makes coworkers uncomfortable. I guess I could use more careful language comrade but I’m sorry, I’m not gonna sanction acting like a creep because you’re autistic. Either ask someone out or find a dating pool where pining and stuff like that is acceptable. It’s not work and it’s not your org. Be professional.
I’ll say tho, sorry for the “Be normal” - I recognize that normalcy is contingent, but in the workplace being normal is about respect to your fellow worker. If you build up this relationship for months in your mind, the denouement is likely going to be toxic. While there’s places that can be fine, in a workplace you’re putting your coworker in a position where she/he has to decide if they want to keep seeing the person who has been carrying a torch for them every day or not. Yes there’s HR to smooth things over sometimes, but I think it’s still just unfair to you and the other person if you involve them in a long and twisty psychic obsession at a place they need to work at to pay rent, etc. we don’t live in communism where they can just get easily reassigned.
Maybe I have no idea what you’re talking about just cuz I’ve never worked in an office
Not what I’m saying so there’s no need to performatively apologize for your ableist language using that interpretation
This is just a terrible idea no matter where you are
Idk I’m checking out of this convo now
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I actually agree on this point. Just flat asking someone out out of the blue can be just as creepy