This is a photo on my (f28)Instagram. My brother in law (m42) reacted to it in DM, and said the above. I feel I replied normally, but now my sister (f39) apparently saw the message and is saying that I engaged in hot discussions with her man! I am myself married and I feel so bad now. I told my husband who said I did nothing wrong. Any idea how I could approach my sister ?
That man has some nerve. That’s really weird to say to anyone.
I feel like your sister’s reaction is the same as some people’s when finding their spouse cheating with someone else. Who do they get mad at and attack? Not their partner, but the person they are cheating with. It’s illogical and dumb. But they don’t want to be mad at their partner. They want very desperately to believe that it was someone else who forced them to do something horrible.
Not that he was cheating, but this is the next closest thing and your sister feels an emotion similar to that.
Not to excuse her, but I think that’s where she’s coming from. It’s a dumb response and hopefully she realizes it and chastises her husband, not the innocent sister who’s just minding her own business and shared an innocent picture. What did she expect you to do? Just not respond? Would she have been mad at him for starting this conversation?
I’m sorry you had to read this and have her go after you. This is so dumb and I feel for you.