This is a photo on my (f28)Instagram. My brother in law (m42) reacted to it in DM, and said the above. I feel I replied normally, but now my sister (f39) apparently saw the message and is saying that I engaged in hot discussions with her man! I am myself married and I feel so bad now. I told my husband who said I did nothing wrong. Any idea how I could approach my sister ?

  • Vicky5712@lemmy.worldOP
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    1 day ago

    Thanks for the detailed opinion. Just clarifying that my sister is mad for the part where I say I’m not hiding much, for her it was a willingness to engage in a talk about my breast size 🙄

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      1 day ago

      I would have interpreted it as “well duh, where would I be hiding a bra in that picture”, but I guess it’s open for interpretation. In either case the problem here is his message, not your response. It’s pretty clear you’re not exactly eager to engage.

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      1 day ago

      Jfc, was your sister dropped on her head as a baby? You may have answered, but it was his question, and you even objected to it.

      Being real, in a similar situation, as much as I love my sister, I’d tell her to shove something unpleasant into an excretory canal. You’re a much calmer person than me to be willing to be the one to try and repair things here.

      Hell, if one of her partners said something similar to my wife, I’d probably pick the object to serve as a rectal probe and do the work personally on that partner. But I know I’m a wee bit over prone to such things.

      • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        16 hours ago

        The funniest part of this to me is that the husband says she did nothing wrong.

        My fiance would take a moment to reassure me, and then he’d be going hunting. I’d be calling my sister to warn her that he’s on the way and I’m not going to stop him.