This is a photo on my (f28)Instagram. My brother in law (m42) reacted to it in DM, and said the above. I feel I replied normally, but now my sister (f39) apparently saw the message and is saying that I engaged in hot discussions with her man! I am myself married and I feel so bad now. I told my husband who said I did nothing wrong. Any idea how I could approach my sister ?
Guy was being an absolute creeper and you should have said “what the fuck?” But instead you did as you have been programmed and tried to maintain civility and not embaress the man who decided to harass you unprompted and continue when you gave the indication that you were uncomfortable.
You did nothing wrong here and now it’s your fault because you are the woman in the exchange. Your sister would do welll to be an ally but if she doesn’t want to you ought to ask her how many DM’s her husband has sent out like that to other woman that she hasn’t seen. Then tell her to fuck off, tell him to fuck off and block him on whatever platforms you share.
Fuck that’s so infuriating.