This is a photo on my (f28)Instagram. My brother in law (m42) reacted to it in DM, and said the above. I feel I replied normally, but now my sister (f39) apparently saw the message and is saying that I engaged in hot discussions with her man! I am myself married and I feel so bad now. I told my husband who said I did nothing wrong. Any idea how I could approach my sister ?
“Victimhood”
It’s some negging and relationship-inappropriate comments that weren’t met with a hard shutdown, calm down.
Is he a creep, yes, because he’s clearly making the opening overtures and being skeevy about it in general.
Otherwise it’s not like he’s abusing power or sending dick pics and using that language hurts the people who actually need it.