https://www.goodcatholic.com/st-paul-shows-us-how-to-hate-the-sin-and-love-the-sinner/

Once you get past all the popups, it seems to agree with you. I went in and was waiting to pick it apart.

What the article breaks down is that we are running off a translation of “Cum dilectione hominum et odio vitiorum,” which the article translates as, “With love for mankind and hatred for sins.” I’m personally also stepping in here and pointing out that this quote has NO CONTEXT.

As the article continues, it explains that love itself should manifest the same way we do for our child. Children require guidance, and if you have to step in and give them a time out, it is not love with strings.

For adults, you are not directing or controlling them. If things get tough with someone you love, sometimes you need a break. Sometimes you need to tell them how it is. Do it with compassion and empathy.

With strangers, you still need to treat them with compassion and empathy! Especially people you disagree with. Just because you disagree, it doesn’t mean they are wrong or less deserving.

My take on this is that you should not take your frustration out on the individual. The sin is not a concrete thing that can be hated. The act of prayer should be for your enemies (however you parse that) and your frustrations. It is a form of meditation meant to seek peace.

So, love everyone, and give your grief to God. Need to talk about it? That’s cool too. I can listen, but I generally offer terrible life advice.