My biggest piece of dating advice is to looks-max. No, I am not saying get a 6-pack and become a conventional hot guy, but rather to really focus on having a nice haircut, gel or wax your hair or comb it thoroughly, wear very clean, new looking clothing. Yes, you should iron even casual wear.
Men don’t notice when they are wearing faded clothing, and if their hair isn’t sticking out everywhere like a wildman they think they are set for the day… But women truly pay attention to all this, IMO.
You can pick up decent looking women even as a bit of a chubby guy if you nail looking well-groomed and you have some charm.
Sadly, being more than just a bit chubby is enough to send women away. At least, that is my experience.
Probably you were not asking for literal advice on this, lol, an djust venting, which is COOL, since I have BEEN there, watching total dickheads who aren’t even attractive succeed while I was alone… But yeah, I want to help anyone reading.
Another thing that took me a while to learn: if you appear to be a big drinker, your male friends will approve but this can really count against you among a lot of women. I am sure the same is for narcotics use. No idea if this is an issue for you, but it was for me.
I used to drink a lot but not anymore, i definitely dress like dog crap. And i would fuck yhe hell out of a chubby girl so long as it’s not too big, i don’t mind a sushi roll every now and again if you know what i mean, but looks are only half, i want real connection not pussy. Anyone can get pussy if they try or pay for it. But real connections are made in forges somewhere in another dimension it seems. I just want to have a chick that isn’t a violent narcissist lol but yeah my image could improve personally, i dress like i just got off work everyday all day
So yeah, bro, you got the right attitude - tighten up the appearance! Dress nice, and make some passes at girls.
I also appreciate that you go for women who are a bit on the plump side. I endorse that. I am married, lol, I don’t go for any women anymore except the one who said “Yes” to me years ag.
It feels funny to be concerned with getting your hair looking good & your clothes nice, wrinkle-free, presentable every single day… It feels to grind against our nature… But I got used to it, and now I even kind of like looking in the mirror and see I look ‘preppy’ (as we used to refer to men dressing in nice, fashionably casual clothes - perhaps you are in my age group and remember this term).
Im 36, i definitely need to get out of the habit of getting off of work, taking a shower and then falling asleep in my underwear or literally sitting down in my underwear, writing a novel occasionally throwing on a pair of shorts to smoke a cigarette shirtless out back or vaping lol
My biggest piece of dating advice is to looks-max. No, I am not saying get a 6-pack and become a conventional hot guy, but rather to really focus on having a nice haircut, gel or wax your hair or comb it thoroughly, wear very clean, new looking clothing. Yes, you should iron even casual wear.
Men don’t notice when they are wearing faded clothing, and if their hair isn’t sticking out everywhere like a wildman they think they are set for the day… But women truly pay attention to all this, IMO.
You can pick up decent looking women even as a bit of a chubby guy if you nail looking well-groomed and you have some charm.
Sadly, being more than just a bit chubby is enough to send women away. At least, that is my experience.
Probably you were not asking for literal advice on this, lol, an djust venting, which is COOL, since I have BEEN there, watching total dickheads who aren’t even attractive succeed while I was alone… But yeah, I want to help anyone reading.
Another thing that took me a while to learn: if you appear to be a big drinker, your male friends will approve but this can really count against you among a lot of women. I am sure the same is for narcotics use. No idea if this is an issue for you, but it was for me.
I used to drink a lot but not anymore, i definitely dress like dog crap. And i would fuck yhe hell out of a chubby girl so long as it’s not too big, i don’t mind a sushi roll every now and again if you know what i mean, but looks are only half, i want real connection not pussy. Anyone can get pussy if they try or pay for it. But real connections are made in forges somewhere in another dimension it seems. I just want to have a chick that isn’t a violent narcissist lol but yeah my image could improve personally, i dress like i just got off work everyday all day
So yeah, bro, you got the right attitude - tighten up the appearance! Dress nice, and make some passes at girls.
I also appreciate that you go for women who are a bit on the plump side. I endorse that. I am married, lol, I don’t go for any women anymore except the one who said “Yes” to me years ag.
It feels funny to be concerned with getting your hair looking good & your clothes nice, wrinkle-free, presentable every single day… It feels to grind against our nature… But I got used to it, and now I even kind of like looking in the mirror and see I look ‘preppy’ (as we used to refer to men dressing in nice, fashionably casual clothes - perhaps you are in my age group and remember this term).
Im 36, i definitely need to get out of the habit of getting off of work, taking a shower and then falling asleep in my underwear or literally sitting down in my underwear, writing a novel occasionally throwing on a pair of shorts to smoke a cigarette shirtless out back or vaping lol
That is the life, my man, you are doing well - but yeah, that is not the methodology for obtaining a gf.