Recently matched with a girl a few years younger than me on Hinge. We chatted for a couple of weeks(!) then met up for chai lattes and spin dip. I picked her up, paid for the meal, and dropped her back at her place. The conversation was perfect, she was cuter IRL, and wanted to get together for a second date! Then she ghosted me and moved out-of-state. 😭

Back in September, I think?

It went pretty well, actually better than I expected. She wanted to stay out until 11 PM with me and we spent much of the time talking and finding a lot of commonalities and good conversation. At the end of the date, she was very physical with me. Got super close to me and asked me if I wanted to go out with her again and she wouldn’t stop kissing me.

But then the next few days, she spent the whole time only ever talking about herself and never asked me a single question about me or seemed to show any interest in me. I thought she might have lost interest in me so I stopped replying to one of her messages to see if that was the end, but then she messaged me again to tell me more about her day. Was super weird how different she was after and I told her I wanted to stop seeing her the day before our next scheduled date. I was a bit conflicted despite the mixed signals. I really liked her despite the mixed signals but I’ve been burned before like this and that combined with the distance was enough to not keep trying to force something to work.

Haven’t cared to get back into this dating game since. I feel frustrated and like it’s largely a waste of my time. I’ve been spending my time in other ways since.

Had a date a couple of weeks ago. Was pretty boring. She messaged me and asked me out via Hinge. The drinks were good but the vibe was off and we were talking past each other and had nothing in common. She basically only liked one bar in the entire city, which I thought was super weird. I like trying new things and when I mentioned different places trying to ask her if she’d been there she got really put off. I tried switch topics a few times but it was just miss after miss, we were just on totally different pages about hobbies, jobs, etc. Guessing she didn’t really read my profile and just focused on my looks.

She was pretty chill and nice though, so that is always a plus. She was a lot nicer than the date I had before her who was very full of herself and kept condescending and lecturing me about my career and investing, who immediate ended the interaction it when she found out where I grew up.

I don’t even remember what year it was in. I gave up actively searching quite a while back.