Doesn’t have to be about over traumatic-related things, but just in general, things you don’t like talking about. Whether it’ll bum you down, distract you or vice versa.
I don’t like talking about work, my job and how the week went. All it’ll do and has done, is make me dread of upcoming work weeks even during my time off. I hate being asked the typical question “how was your day at work?” any other time. Because the answer is just going to be unsatisfying and I get annoyed even having to answer that question. It’s not that I’m hiding anything, it’s just that it’s fucking work and it is the same damn thing every night. I put up with stupid fucking people, even dumber co-workers and I work in a system that is massively ungrateful for what you do for it.
That’s all you’ll ever need to know about it, so stop trying to get me to talk about that shit.
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My work.
Retirement portfolios / stock market and also PC motherboard / CPU / ram combos. These both seem learnable but they ste both totally opaque to me. I just glaze over when those topics come up.
Trans stuff. I really have no strong opinions on gender and it doesn’t interest me in the slightest. Whenever I have discussed it when asked directly I just become aware of my own ignorance. I don’t want to upset or hurt anyone and don’t feel engaged enough to dig much beyond a basic sort of live and let live philosophy.
Religion, spirituality, and the afterlife. They’re all really fucking stupid made-up nonsense and are an absolute waste of time and thought. May as well try to imagine a new color.
vibecoding/ai bs
I hate the word “vibecoding.”
That’s what the fanboys use. It’s “slopping” for the rest of us.
same. maybe i should have added quotation marks lol
Oh it wasn’t aimed at you. I understand that you were using the term demonstratively.
People’s kids, especially toddlers/babies. Like, I’m so sorry but I literally could not give any less fucks. Even those I consider family, I’m like tolerant of but I don’t want to sit and have a whole ass conversation about what your kid did at daycare. Talk to me when they’re older and doing actual cool shit.
As someone with a three and a half year old who goes to daycare, who sometimes does finger-painting, or sings songs, and tells stories about being pushed by this girl named Farron, all I can say is haha I fucking got you, you read about my kids day and now yours is ruined lolololol.
I think one very scary thing to admit is when a mother has this feeling towards their baby. Sometimes, the movie magic just doesn’t hit; and it feels like an annoying, parasitic burden rather than a precious living human.
But to be in any way vocal about it makes one seem like a horrible or evil mother, and could lead to intense ostracization.
Oh god this.
I’m sure parenting a young child feels really isolating. But YOU chose to isolate yourself. I didn’t.
I’ve been vegan for nearly ten years, I dread any time the topic comes up with people who aren’t also vegan.
It usually becomes a pointless debate where I either have to heavily self-censor, or end up hurting the feelings of people who eat animal products. It’s always the same conversations I’ve already had hundreds of times, no one’s gonna change my mind and I probably won’t change theirs either.
It’s kind of unfortunate because I always want to ask details with what I believe is an open mind. However people are naturally cautious against going there. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not interested in going vegan but as an omnivore I can appreciate any source of good food and sometimes choose vegan ones.
Now if only I can figure out vegan meals that would do well in my smoker!
If you go about it with curiosity, especially if you focus on recipes instead of ethics, you’re probably good. Sharing food is such a big social thing that you get a bit ostracized for when you’re vegan, so it truly is nice to share recipes with earnest people like you seem to be.
Now if only I can figure out vegan meals that would do well in my smoker!
I’ve never used a smoker so I’m not quite familiar with the process, but my first instinct would be trying something with seitan. I did find some recipes with just a quick search.
If you do smoke some seitan, feel free to invite me, I’ll bring drinks! :P
I’ll look into that …
A smoker is essentially cooking for a long time at lower temperatures while infusing flavor from selected wood. It works well with certain meats that match the wood flavors well, and especially tougher cuts where the long cooking time tenderizes.
Other things that have worked well include
- Mac and cheese (vegetarian)
- Apple pie (could easily be vegan)
- baked beans (could easily be vegan)
- corn, both on cob and in casserole
- some fruits like pineapple
- avocados worked well because of the lower temperatures compared to a grill, but I don’t think it picked up the smoke
Vegetables generally don’t, because they don’t pick up any flavor. For roasted peppers especially, it doesn’t get hot enough to blacken the skins well. Halloumi didn’t do well but maybe I don’t know how to cook that
I really want to build on the baked beans - I bet similar stew type things work well, like lentils - and the pie
I probably won’t change theirs either.
🙏
I’ve never made anyone become vegan, but a lot of my friends have definitely opened up to incorporating more vegetarian or vegan meals into their diets, which I do count as a small win.
A friend who used to be very much the meat & potatoes type has recently been texting me excitedly about the new vegan recipes he’s been trying out. He still regularly eats meat, but hey, it’s something.
The future, and how everything sucks now compared to the past, and how much worse it will get
Because all of that is true 😔 I’d rather stay in my “living in 2003” bubble. I’ll go out to vote and then come back to hide again.
I’m exaggerating as I tend to do. But there aren’t any discussions of the future that don’t leave me depressed
Any personal project I’m doing. Talking about it seems to give enough satisfaction to keep me away from continuing it later.
It is so fucking tempting to ask every single person in this thread to elaborate lol
I don’t like talking about anything if I don’t get a reflective silence now and then. Some people just talk and talk to hear themselves talk and never take the time to let the words sink in or just plain cook before spitting them out.
am currently forced via circumstance to live with a person like this…motherfucker never shuts up or says anything of consequence.
just constant soap opera bullshit, former rich-person who probably watched too much tv growing up now down on their luck.
always going on about how X person he ran into that day was an asshole for some arbitrary social slight (when that person was probably just someone working, who wanted this talker to leave em the fuck alone)
Can’t say.
As someone who moved from the US to Canada, where I come from. I was born in a Latin American country and speak fluent Spanish so I introduce myself with that first and foremost out of spite
I’m sick of listening to people complain about their lives. They hate their jobs, they hate their spouses, they hate their friends. They are unfulfilled and unhappy and IF ONLY THEY WERE RICH everything would be magically wonderful. The past few years, now everyone talks about how ‘oppressed’ they are because of their identity too. I’ve met so many single women doctors who just go on for an hour about how ‘oppressed’ they are because they only make $480K/yr instead of the 500K their married male colleague does… and how if only they made more they’d never have to fly coach again! Or how expensive and awful their kids private education is, or how their wife prevents them from buying that Raptor truck they really want.
Oh, and as a single white guy, they love to lecture me on how amazing and awesome and rich and perfect my life must be. Because apparently I have ‘no responsibilities lots of free time and money and freedom and can fuck whomever i want whenever i want’. Right…
Do they ever ask me how my life is? No, of course not. I’m just a placeholder for their weird escapist fantasy they have because they hate their own lives so much. And if I start mentioning any basic facts about my life, they think I’m whining or ‘bitter’ or something because my life is and was sally far less privileged than theirs ever was.
This is like 90% of my dates, and other casual social interactions with new people. 10 years ago it wasn’t like this. People used to ask me questions and interact with me… now they just lecture me about how their life is terrible and mine is better than theirs and I’m a jerk because of it. I miss talking to people about books, or movies, or hobbies.
Hence I really have stopped going out and interacting with people like I used to. At least with my existing friends I can tell them about events in my life that are good or bad without them acting like I’m an asshole. The last date I went on I told my date about the book I was reading and she looked at me like I was a jerk and then immediately started complaining about how her ex read books and was a douchebag and she doesn’t like douchy people who read a lot…
the idiot complained…
ime, you got to do a bit of pre-filtering for common interests and shit, before deciding to socialize with people.
to me it sounds like your going to some upper-class urban bars (or going dating events…which imo are even worse than meeting people out in the wild) and naturally run into unawares people stuck in the capitalist rat-race, who you can’t relate to. could try going to smaller punk dive bars, or some kind of themed party-type bar.
or better yet to go to some less “mainstream” hobby-event, whatever that interest might be, atleast there you will have atleast 1 guaranteed interest to relate over that isnt just complaining about how much your life sucks (which seems to be a common thing at bars)
That’s every bar. Every hobby group. There are no people here who aren’t upper class.
Technically I am upper class too. I just wasn’t born into it, so I’m not a whiny bitch about my life. I think it’s great. I don’t think my life is a tragedy because I don’t own two vacation homes and a yacht.
I hate punks. Here they are all whiny entitled rich trust fund kids who think you’re a douche for having to work a job that pays a living wage while they cosplay as poor waiting for their trust funds to mature. They also love to lecture you about anarchism and how you are oppressed because you don’t have tattoos and piercings.
I also hate punk music, it’s boring and whiny.
when it comes to bars, the best ones ime only open once a week or less (especially punk live music bars). a local dive bar that only opens once or twice a month will attract different crowd than some daily bar.
far as your “demographic” goes…where are you at if you don’t mind me asking? there’s always an underbelly of working stiffs in any area, rich people don’t clean their own toilets or prepare their own food…somebody in the area has to be working to maintain/service everything
dude none of that exists where i live. there are no dive bars. sounds like you live in some rustbelt place where rent is dirt cheap.
the working stiffs don’t live here. they commute to here from 2 hours away. they can’t afford the housing prices. they also think i’m a douchebag because I can afford the housing prices and I go to fancy douche bars. the bartenders and waitstaff all commute in from places 2 hours away. my dog walker commutes in from 2 hours away, etc.
and i’m not going to move 2 hours away. I love my job and I love being 15m from my office.
chicago
i’ve been there several times. i can buy a mansion there with what i pay for a 2bed 600sq condo here.
then…why stay where you are? it doesn’t sound like your happy wherever you are
My problems. It’s not that I’m the strong, stoic type - because I’m not. But talking about them makes me feel sad all over again.
