But I do find it funny how Lemmy people will one jerk down vote anything that causes them any minor about it cognitive dissidence.

Never stopped.

Just gonna leave this here…

https://letmegooglethat.com/?q=is+being+religious+associated+with+getting+happier&l=1

We are probably going to disagree on cellphone access being better for the kids.

In 1913, 700 miles was practically across the country. That was further away than most adults traveled from their birth town in their lives.

Yes, the store thing was just an example. The point is that before the 1970-80s basically ALL kids were “free-range”. In the 80s a PSA would come on tv that asked the parents if they knew where their kids were, and often than answer was ‘no’. (That’s literally the moment when parents started being shamed for not being helicopter parents.)

It’s just an uncomfortable fact.

Parents used to buy postage and literally mail their kids across the country.

And people didn’t think that was weird.

You think that started in the 70s?

Yes. Definitely (though of course the actual specific time when such things started changes based on location, rural areas were slower than suburban).

Consider this: How old were your kids when you allowed them to go to a store by themselves for the first time?

How old were you when you were allowed to go to a store by yourself for the first time?

Ask your grandma how old she was. (Call your grandma anyway, she would love to hear from you.)

I honestly don’t believe that Dr. Spock would recognize today’s parenting expectations as anything other than absurdity. Which it is.

No where did he say that children should not be allowed to go to a store by themselves, or that kids should be expected to have a minimum of 16 hours of college credits before they turn 18.

When he was writing, he would not have been able to imagine the way “parenting” would evolve by the end of the century.

Not really, no. The modern concept of a parent is really recent invention. Parents 70 years ago did not have expectations and responsibility that parents have today.

Your great grandparents would absolutely think the job of parenting today is absurd to the point of just being comedy.

Honestly, as terrible as Trump is, I’m not sure I want JD to take his place.

That’s a fair criticism.

Their propaganda has actually generally sucked pretty bad this war. They had the opportunity to make the US and Israel (and particularly Trump and Bebe) into a global pariah. They could have started showing videos of schools and other graphic terrible images of people the US has murdered and things they have destroyed. They could have turned the whole world against the US and Israel, just like Biden and Zelinski were able to turn the would world against Russia.

But instead they dug in, started bombing everyone else around them, and made everyone remember why they are hated in the first place.

It’s a website that doesn’t require a user to report their age.

You don’t understand how this protects kids because you haven’t been taught to think like a monster. That’s okay. But I have had lots of training in child protection.

The way “grooming” online often works is to get the kid to a place where the predator can start blackmailing the kid, but that’s a process. That often starts on chat apps. Those can be in video games or social media platforms, etc. The predators identify kids in the apps and then will start chatting with them. It will start off innocuous, talking about the game or whatever, but eventually it turns into the predator trapping the kid into a secret (it’s always about secrets). The predator will ask the kid “Hey, want to see some porn?” or something like that. And of course a 13 or 14 year old kid is going to be interested in that. Then “don’t tell your parents” always follows. Once they have agreed to the secret, the trap is set. The predator brings the kid darker and darker porn and makes the kid feel more and more guilty and uncomfortable. Eventually it turns into, “Send me photos of your self or I’ll publish these chats” (or worse, like in person meetings).

This is why “This is the parent’s responsibility” is cruel bull shit. Parents can’t be everywhere all the time and these predators make sure they stay out of parents views. The parents are victims too.

Everyone that says “This isn’t about protecting the kids” is half right. It’s not really about protecting the kids, it’s really about protecting Meta and other developers from liability. Users love private messengers, and internet companies love them too. But it’s a problem for Internet companies because they are the dark corners that make the internet companies liable. And they do have a responsibility to protect users on their websites, and they can’t just claim “we didn’t know”, because they damn well know.

So, their solution is to require the OS to record the user’s age, even if that’s just “18+”. The websites can call the age from the OS, get the “verified age” (they really don’t care what “verified” means, that’s the OS maker’s problem) and then open their doors to the customer. (If the kid is using their parent’s account or what ever, the internet companies don’t care. They did their due diligence.) But if the OS returns “<18” then the websites can lock down the user’s account. They can automatically turn on parental controls, require a parent’s consent, etc. Most importantly for child protection, they can turn off or very strictly limit private messaging (all of the online problems start with private messaging). They can basically do a lot of the things they are doing now, just off loading the liability onto the OS maker. Which, personally, I think is better for the parents too. It’s much easier for parents to monitor the OS then it is for them to monitor hundreds of websites and games.

And Lemmy, Mastodon, and fediverse users (and especially hosts) should want this too. Hosts on the fediverse do not understand how much liability they are taking upon themselves (if they did, they wouldn’t be hosting).

There are several problems with the charlatans.

1. if you haven’t taken a science class since high school, then their advice often right. I’m amazed at how quickly the medical pseudo-science that flipped politically in my life time. I was raised in a deep red conservative Christian community and I don’t remember anti-vaccines ever being a thing for my community (we definitely had our issues, just not that one). The medical pseudo-science thing back then was firmly in the far left liberal sphere. The anti-vaxx movement was a hippy-liberal thing. (I’m not really sure when that flipped.)

2. The medical industry -including academia- is very much at fault in burning trust. There are many instances of the medical industry intentionally withholding treatments because a different treatment made them more money. Or doctors over prescribing in order to charge insurance companies more money.

3. A lot of what RFK jr says. Starts off good. He’s all like “Hey, we medicate too much. We should all focus on eating healthier and exercising. That’s what the government should encourage.” And even I’m like, “Yeah, okay. I agree.” Then he goes on to say “And that why you should shove a bowling ball up your butt.” That’s when he loses me.

I’m an environmental engineer and environmental scientist and I specialize in industrial hazmat waste issues, but I recognize even I’m a bit out of my professional lane on this.

But if you were to identify specific “toxins” that you are interested in “cleansing” there are often methods to do that. But first, I would recommend talking to a health professional. And those cleanses are going to vary significantly based on the toxin of interest.

But your best general “cleanse” is to eat more green leafy vegetables and exercise regularly. And feel free to drink a 4oz glass of milk a couple times a week.

When did progressives get all “Got mine first!”

I mean the selfish carelessness of progressives today is really astonishing.

If your job sucks so bad because you have to make the most minor accommodations for your co-workers families, then just quit your job. Like, you have no responsibilities and nothing holding you back. What’s your problem?

Well, no. I don’t really watch his press conferences.