I aim to be more human. I aim to be less apathetic as a human. Apathy grows, like a tree, and I aim to prune my own.

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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • Good advice, I’ve genuinely never done that, just habit from a lifetime of winter. Wouldn’t even have thought of it.

    That does remind me, though, I did find out years back that if you already have a crack, in my case a tiny crack from a rock, that hasn’t been sealed with a glass repair whatever it is they do, any significant amount of heat directed toward the glass in freezing conditions will cause the crack to spread. Bit. By. Bit. Suuuch a shit feeling to watch.


  • If you are coming directly from outside to a heated space, it’s likely the space near the door Is over-heated because of the loss to outside.

    Hotels, big stores, event spaces, and other things with frequent entry/exit usually have a double door setup, meaning you walk through two doors and an air gap to enter, to minimize fluctuations in the main building. Revolving doors are popular for this as well, but I’m personally thankful they aren’t more wide-spread… That air gap space usually has heat set to run until it’s like 80-90f whether the door is open or not, so it gets rather toasty. Places that don’t have the buffer space will often have heat vents near the door cranked up to account for heat loses, and if they aren’t opened it’ll also get toasty.


  • And for the love of all things good in the world, do NOT throw hot water on your car to melt the ice/snow. The glass -will- crack from thermal expansion. Use the defrost and sit there until it’s melted enough for your ice scraper to slide it off. If you have plain water in your wiper fluid compartment, drain it or it’ll rupture the lines when it freezes. If you can get low-temp wiper fluid you can use that, otherwise it’s probably best to leave it empty or maybe throw some isopropyl alcohol in it. Not super sure, I’ve always used low-temp fluid.

    I watched my ex from Texas throw hot water on their windshield after they followed me to my very northern-tundra state. They had never really seen snow before, outside of occasional falls that melted by noon. Not even close to the same thing as a sustained hard freeze. I did tell them not to do it but they knew better. They were an abusive asshole so meh. Lessons learned the hard way are valuable. For me as an onlooker. That popping sound as it shattered was just 👨‍🍳💋.


  • From 5th grade onward I didn’t spend two consecutive years in the same school district. I was perpetually the new, weird, poor, neurodivergent, easy-target kid who sucked at making friends, so they pretty much all sucked in uniquely scarring ways. The best part is my parents thought they were doing me a favor by trying to find a school that would be good with my neurospice… We didn’t actually move from the time I was 9-16. Only me.

    I have no clue how to make or maintain friendships and I desperately want to move cities, or at least homes, every couple of years or I get restless. Very glad I’m well educated, though, it makes the isolation that much more profound.









  • I used to work escalation support for a door and window company, and we had full discretion to give people free shit to keep them happy “within reason”. See, doors and windows are really expensive, and warranties are serious business when you are talking $20k in product, so reputation is important. We were the step below the core product experts with the company, who handled anyone who was talking lawyers.

    I hated that job because, like any call center, they never fired anyone for not doing their job properly/well, so I gave away a lot of free stuff in protest. Like a lot. Examples include:

    • Oh you are a 10 months outside of warranty for the whole house of windows that’s just started failing? No problem, we’ll honor it and send out an inspector to get the full scope, order the replacements, then install them.
    • Oh you are missing a piece, but you mentioned the thing it’s attached to isn’t working that well, so I’ll just send a whole new unit for you, instead, and just charge for the small piece.
    • You’ve just ordered this replacement part that’s outside of warranty, I’ll include some stuff to keep it working well for you.
    • Ok we can’t figure out which specific part it is that you need, so I’m going to send the entire kit.
    • If you only replace this one piece on the door it will be aged differently than the rest, so I’ll send you a whole new set of hardware.

    The only thing you needed to do to get free stuff from me was be nice, and have a need I could fill for free. If you were mean, not just frustrated but mean, to me or my tier 1 agents, I’d get real stubborn real quick. That served as a lovely smokescreen so nobody really caught on to the plethora of goodies I gave away, though I saw my giveaway stats and they were considerably higher than anyone else. But it meant I got great feedback, so they didn’t do anything about it except tell me to cut it back where I could. lol ok sure I’ll get right on that.

    Small thing overall but I got what I could out of it.



  • I love when games themselves are sort of meh, but there’s that one thing in them that keeps you hooked for hours and hours because it’s done surprisingly well for some reason.

    When I played FFX I basically stopped playing the story when I found blitzball. I’m not sure if I ever actually finished the game. It was amazing use of 3-D space that actually played really well, at least compared to what else was around at the time.



  • The challenge doesn’t always stop at the door being open, like my BFF. He genuinely seemed to think he was my mate, but also loved everyone else on earth equally, at a reasonably close second (including cuddles with complete strangers). Whenever my human partner and I would get busy with the door open, he’d try to break us up or get us to focus on him instead. Closed wasn’t much of an option because that meant three other cats screaming to get in, and just the one being jealous was much cuter.

    He’d walk and jump across and between us, pace around the bed, nuzzle into my arm for cuddles, curl up between someone’s legs, headbutt my face, bury his face in someone’s hand for pets, love-bite my (and only my) neck and wrists, the whole shebang. Anything he could do to get all the attention on himself and ruin the mood, he did. Except he didn’t meow much, and never that I can remember when he was being a cockblock, so that was nice.

    It was fucking adorable, but so so so so so annoying. This started within a year of bringing him home from the shelter (adult, age unknown, likely 5+), and since I had him for 10 years before he passed, across multiple partners, I learned to keep one hand to the side for petting him to keep him reasonably calm. ngl I kinda liked the attention even if it was hugely distracting for everyone. And yes, he did always wiggle his way in the middle of non-sexy cuddles, too. He liked being the cream filling of the Oreo, and insisted upon a cat-body-separation, specifically his for the entire length he could stretch, between me and anyone who stayed in my bed that wasn’t another cat.


  • I suspect the population needs to see nothing happen if they vote in a blue wave, and I suspect it’s going to need to get worse… not that I don’t support voting, but right now there’s still too much faith that the system will correct itself. If you aren’t constantly consuming political news, you might think the lip service is actually doing something, and with the constant barrage of shit, people can honestly be forgiven too since extent for not knowing exactly how things are playing out with challenges and stuff.

    It would be nice if it did correct course with voting, but I don’t think it will. At least not without a bigger shakeup (like actually progressives in place of dinos, flipping gerrymandered red districts, etc.) than 2026 midterms are likely to deliver…