It doesn’t rub me the wrong way because it’s incredibly understandable. People are generally jealous, people have hangups with trust, people want to feel powerful.

Whatever the guy’s reason is exactly, he is essentially not fine with what his wife wants to do, and even if she is completely fine with not doing something to alleviate her husband’s uncomfortableness, the need to do so in the first place is simply sad. It would just be optimal if everyone could do whatever they want at all times.

I make it a point to figure out my issues (why am I uncomfortable with something?) and if it makes sense to get rid of it, to get rid of it. It’d be nice if everyone did that but people are often just not in a mental place to be able to do that.

So in the end, I do very much understand what you mean, however I don’t really get upset by this. It’s incredibly common to “restrict” your partner like this, I mean, monogamy itself is already a restriction. So like you said, you should just let people do what they do, and be happy that it’s not like that for you.

I just use the qbittorrent “search” feature. Add some of the search plugins for different sites that you can find when you open the search options.

*Arrs are nicer, but a lot to setup imo. qbittorrent you just download, open it when you need it, and then you’re done with it. If you don’t torrent a lot, it’s more time-efficient.

Or just try not to be on the same page at all. Also okay.

Yep, as long as you don’t visit “local” and no instances are defederated, you simply get the whole fediverse, there isn’t any other experience available at that point.

There are people around me enraged/supportive of it. I want to be able to be a voice of reason, and I can’t do it if I don’t know. I don’t want to be just “generically” informed.

In general I agree it’s pretty shitty that it’s so much, but I care about people, and people care about this shit.

I like to be informed about the stupid shit happening, so yes, I enjoy it. It’s basically 5 minutes each day where I look at /all, the rest is subscribed stuff which doesn’t have politics.

I’m sorry, but if you have this problem, it’s entirely caused by who your players are as people, not by the games itself. Even cooperative games leave people that get pissed, pissed at each other. For example, if one person wants to do something that another person finds suboptimal, and then the cooperative game is lost some time later.

I love Deep Rock Galactic, Terra Mystica, Mysterium.

I think you either put teenagers down or give these people too much credit. Even non-grownups do this.

Which platform exactly is that :D

I haven’t seen any comments not removed by moderators. Unfortunately there’s a time discrepancy between comment made and action taken.

If this time discrepancy didn’t exist, I think we’d be perfectly fine.

I think it’s much better then literally anywhere else on the internet. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, but unfortunately everywhere else is worse. As such, I’m not sure whaz the solution is for Lemmy in particular.

Everywhere where it seems “better” is just moderation making it seem like that.

It’s a power struggle. He is attempting to get more from you than you are willing to give. It seems like he’s attempting to create an unequal relationship for his benefit.

While selfishness is completely natural, relationships should be equal. And it’s not only about true equality, i.e. “I vacuum the floor” -> “you should also vacuum the floor” and it being split 50/50. A relationship is beneficial because everyone can do what they’re good at, and different things fit different people. By using this fact, it’s possible to create something more than just sharing everything 50/50, because you’re using individual people’s strengths fully while minimizing weaknesses.

How exactly this should be done, what is ok, really none of us can say. It’s up to the people in the relationship. And you are quite obviously not ok with what is happening. And that is the important thing. Everything else is relatively irrelevant.

You have a bunch of options now, you always have. As this is a power struggle, you have to be aware of what power you have. What do you do that he wants? That is the power you have. You can negotiate with it. You can withhold benefits to him. You can use persuasion. You can invoke traditions. You can use other people. You can exploit his insecurities. You can leave him (or threaten to) and look for a better guy. And so much more.

What exactly works in this struggle is for you to be creative about, and for you to decide what you are willing to do. Threatening to leave does not work if you’re not actually willing to leave, for example.

We don’t know your particular situation well enough even with this post you made here trying to explain things. I can just say that you should stand up for yourself and do what you think is right. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable from this post, but also this is your personal story, I can’t see the other side and how accurate and truthful you are being.

For me personally, I would have never married someone that early, marriage just makes it harder to threaten to leave someone. I personally wouldn’t put up with any of this, because I am able to be happy and live alone. It just sounds too selfish to me, and I wouldn’t want to be the one to teach them what is too selfish. I wouldn’t want to be disrespected like this.

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What’s the advantage of being mentally unstable?

You do know what non-binary means? Not part of the binary gender spectrum. Neither male nor female. Which bathroom should a person use that is neither male nor female? The male or the female one? What should they say on forms that ask you if you’re male or female? Should they be fine with being called “he” or “she” if neither apply to them?

I would guess it’s like us putting disinfectant on. “Are they even a doctor, they literally disinfect every wound”

Maybe he knows how to make meals. Maybe I want him to touch my butt the whole time

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Just gotta make it not look like an assassination. Has probably happened so often throughout history, but we can’t know it works because it has worked.

Amazing, thank you!