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Cake day: July 13th, 2023

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  • Thank you for making me curious about the realization I wasn’t aware of a “silver bullet” for Wendigos. Silver comes up, but it seems fire is a more commonly accepted weakness - whether simply chucking a molotov or tricking it into eating salt, which apparently causes it to hack up its still beating heart, which must then be burned (feels overkill but better safe than sorry)

    Oh, or just feeding it and treating it like a person, since its origins are a myth warning against cannibalism. Bear tallow is a supposed inoculation, which makes sense given eating animal fat would provide quick nutrition.

    TL;DR burn that sucker.




  • There is no obligation at any specific time to have sex from either party. That being said, if either party is unhappy with the frequency of intimacy, it is perfectly reasonable to work together to resolve the issue, as with any relationship challenges.

    Getting upset and frustrated is not helpful. Being tired is not “an excuse”. His approach to resolving the challenge is inherently flawed and inconsiderate, and your mindset worrying about “meeting your husbands needs” is a little concerning - it seems like you don’t have the ability to set healthy boundaries in the relationship.

    None of this should make you feel like the relationship is “doomed” or that your husband is an ass. It sounds like you’re both young, and it’s perfectly natural to not be great at conflict resolution - plenty of old couples still suck at it.

    Take the time to discuss the issue again - it should not be a you vs. him conversation, but the two of you working to solve the challenges of a difficult time. If either of you is clearly not working as part of that team, you won’t get anywhere.

    Make it clear you have “needs” too - if you can’t rest after a long and stressful shift, it might challenge your ability to work. If he wants intimacy more often, perhaps you could better plan around the free time you do have - if it’s clear the overtime is severely limiting the opportunities, he needs to understand that he can make the sacrifice of using his hand every once in a while while you work your butt off to help pay for his sister’s treatment - often putting situations into clearer terms helps people understand when they’re not being very reasonable.

    It is entirely possible he will be unreceptive to all of this, at which point the other commenters bloodlust will be a little more justified. But you gotta have a little more optimism in relationships you barely know anything about.