
My preferences are mostly submissive, but the way I mesh with an individual, along with what they desire from me, certainly plays a role.
Partners who state plainly what they enjoy or would like certainly motivate my submissive nature. It is particularly thrilling when you feel comfortable seeking out your partner’s pleasure just how they want you to.
I’ve been on both sides of this scenario, but I’ll explain why I have flaked in the past to maybe help you understand why it could happen.
The individual suddenly becomes impatient/aggressive within the time that was given. Not only is this a big turnoff in general, it is also concerning and leads me to reconsider the safety of the scenario.
The individual communicates well up to the point i confirm the meet. Suddenly, they are taking a significant amount of time to respond, so i assume they are not interested or asleep. I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.
Their demeanor completely changed once we agreed to meet. To be clear, I mean they suddenly become very disrespectful and demeaning. I don’t know them, so to move to that type of interaction without discussion or prior involvement makes that person unsafe in my opinion.