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  • I feel you.

    On your 3rd paragraph, I also have no idea why this happens, but we are not the only ones. Maybe people get the idea we became too self-centered?

    I cannot comment on you because I don’t know you, but in my case, if I were to be self-critic, I always focus too much on my career, wife, hobbies, household chores, family… friends were always the last priority on my schedule. People pick up on that quickly, idk.

    I do have some friends though who are low maintenance and with these I find its much easier to keep friends with. We can go 6 months without seeing each other and its still fun to get together.


  • I am that friend that vanished that you are describing.

    In my case, I tried talking to the friend that bothered me ( an unmedicated ADHD alcoholic mess of a friend) he told me to fuck off.

    I even stopped hanging out with my old group of friends that involved this guy that I described because it became this: male anger space to vent off, suicide jokes, complain about work, glorify alcohol, try out different types of drugs. No, thank you, I don’t want to do a live action of Rick n Morty.

    There is no talking with a group where everyone decided to stay together on a shitty decision. I tried once and they got really angry and made me the wrong one for going to the gym, waking up early, quitting alcohol, etc.

    I still keep in touch from afar and now, almost 10 years later, some of them are saying " yeah, the doctor told me to drop the alcohol", " yeah now I found the right meds for me and I aint as angry"

    Everybody goes at their own pace, but expecting other friends to stay with you during this journey is ludicrous.

    I went my way and although it hurt, sometimes its the best thing you can do for your mental health and integrity





  • Agora no Lemmy uso o conect e tá ok, mas não é a mesma coisa, fora que 90% da galera não fez a migração

    Eu entendo que tenha menos posts e isso possa desanimar, mas para mim eu percebo que são coisas de maior qualidade, a conversa flui mais devagar e às vezes posts se alongam mais sobre um tema e outro. Eu acho que, no geral, o resultado é positivo. Tem vezes que eu entro aqui para postar e já vejo um usuário falando exatamente o que eu penso, então eu só upvoto, hahaha.

    O que eu posso sugerir para expandir tua experiência no Lemmy e dar essa sensação do r/brasil é usar o All e ficar conectada em todas as instâncias do Lemmy possíveis.

    Não é obrigatório saber inglês bem, mas ajuda muito já que a troca e investida ao Lemmy é primordialmente algo internacional.