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  • Just be cause she doesn’t seem to have a problem being out to everyone doesn’t mean she doesn’t or didn’t. It is important to keep in mind there could have been struggles you are completely unaware of. And, if perhaps there were not, that only means that your situation is slightly different. Coming out like this is your choice, but pre-framing an interaction can help a final push for you to reveal what is hard. This kind of strategy has at least helped me make a hard admission in the past.

    What I mean is to try to schedule a ‘conversation.’ Let her know that it is a serious subject matter, but be sure to clarify it is not a negative subject. It is something you want to discuss, and you would appreciate her time and attention.


  • Communication is the most important thing here. The point about you feeling it better if she sees you as a man is a sticky one, but her doing that if that is how you wish to present is a signal of respect for your wishes in the relationship. Her only wanting to do one thing and not taking an interest in what you like is also something you really need to talk to her about. Make it clear what you want, and how you feel about feeling like you are the only one taking interest in doing what she wants.

    Really, talking is how you resolve this. But be prepared for it not to go how you expect or something feasibly not being workable. Keep yourself first and make a judgment call on how much you are willing to put up with. People can change, but it takes genuine desire, deep effort, and backsliding and regression can happen.


  • Shitty property planning with no off-street parking results in people needing to park on the street in a car centric city where you need a car to function.

    Not city/property planning’s fault tho, it’s the people with no choice but to park on the street that are the problem!

    /s

    Ffs, sure there is the case of some dick parking outside your home, but the real problem is with city and property planning. Not the fault of individial owners by and large.







  • It sounds like you have a lot of hurt wrapped up in this and I am sorry for that. Men are people. A lot of alt right men were led down a path by people who cared, because others did not and told them they were the opressor and enemy when in reality they were lost and without social connection. Men do not get socialized in the same way women do and beating on them like this rather than offering a hand in help is what led to this exact thing.

    You also sound young as well as full of energy on this topic. You are losing the human perspective in favor of us versus them politics. You are perpetuating it.

    Please think about what you are doing, I don’t think me debating you further will lead to anything.

    Sincerely a leftist white man who loves all people and wants us all to get along and support one another.