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Cake day: December 25th, 2023

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  • Hi there! I’m a Canadian but grew up around Maryland, came back to Canada about 25 years ago. Vancouver island and the coast in general is really expensive, and there’s no rentals unfortunately. Personally I don’t think people here are opposed to newcomers, it’s just the squeeze on the already strapped housing that’s pisses people off. We’ve had decades of rich folks (from all areas) buying summer homes and taking away places for people to live. That being said, if you’re a good person, and you seem to be from your responses, people will see that.

    One place I haven’t seen mentioned is Smithers. I really like that town! Super cute, has a brewery and all the stores downtown actually have businesses in them. Added plus of a ski hill you can see from downtown. Not ridiculously expensive either, for bc. Will get cold in the winter, obvs, but I saw you lived in Vermont so nothing you can’t handle. Also shout out for Vermont! I spent my summers there as a kid, miss it something fierce. Personally I love Fernie but it’s just as expensive as Victoria since it’s Calgarys Whistler. If you are really keen on the coast Powell river is good, also Campbell River and Port MacNeil. All three would be places I’d move.

    I’m not in the tech field at all so can’t help with that part but pm me if you have any questions about the coast or stuff like that. Good luck friend, may we all get through this.


  • I have the exact same thing, I also have a hard time with sarcasm unless it’s very obvious or over exaggerated. Basically my brain just thinks why would someone lie to me? I’m always willing to help out someone or listen to their stories, there’s no need to lie or embellish. And that’s a good thing! I’m willing to take what people say at face value because I do believe in the goodness of humans (though that’s definitely being put to the test lately…).

    You’ll do just fine in life! If you’re ever unsure, ask someone you trust to verify or give their thoughts on what you’ve heard (I do this all the time!). And if you have a friend that always embellishes or tells fibs then have that mental check on what they say. In the end it says more about them needing to do that than you taking them at face value. And if the things they say are hurtful, can harm others, or they do it just to mess with you, then it’s time to reevaluate having them as a friend.

    You’re not slow at all, your brain just works differently, same as mine, same as lots of other people. I don’t know how old you are (I’m guessing younger than my mid forties) but as you get older you’ll figure out ways to parse these things better. Please don’t take your way of seeing things as being slow or stupid, you’re absolutely not, and this isn’t going to hold you back in any way. Good luck with all this, it can definitely be challenging, but you’re going to be a-ok.