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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • This is literally the trolley problem. Do nothing because you don’t want to “participate”–the trolley kills a dozen people. Choose to “participate” by pulling a lever–only one person will be killed.

    It’s idealism vs realism. Yes, ideally no one would vote for anyone funding Israel (or allow the trolley to kill anyone, to stick to the analogy), but if we think of the realistic outcomes that will happen, I’m going to pull the lever every time.

    Choosing to opt out of engaging with the system is still a choice with real consequences.










  • So this is an issue that gets my goat because people react emotionally (which is understandable) but don’t follow on to think about what’s going on that “dumpster babies” are a relatively common phenomenon. If it was one or two people doing this here and there, then I’d accept that it’s a problem with the individuals, but since it happens so frequently, there is a systemic issue at play that needs to take some of the blame.

    Yes, there are baby drop boxes, but what might keep someone from using them? (Edit to clarify based on the replies: other than abortion access, which should be available everywhere to everyone who needs it) Are there other resources that could be made available? Are there medical or social pressures creating barriers to utilizing efforts to decrease infanticide? I don’t think there’s one answer but what I do know is that prison is probably not the answer to preventing more of these deaths.


  • I haven’t ever cheated but I’m an armchair human development nerd and I’d assume that there are some things at play like:

    • Social narratives that make it seem like there’s only one true love out there for you (assuming the cheating here is only physical and not love).
    • There can be shame in divorce or breaking up.
    • There’s the sunk cost fallacy of staying with someone because you’ve put so many years into the relationship.
    • If there are kids, people can believe (whether it’s true or not) that it’s harmful to the kids to separate
    • People compartmentalize and can develop really weird cognitive dissonance where they build two realities and can operate as if the two have nothing to do with each other. It’s hard to explain.
    • All the other collateral with separating, like potentially moving, new financials and potential child support/alimony, custody challenges, health insurance through marriage, job shifts, etc. etc.

    Before you angrily hit reply, dear reader, I’m not defending or condoning cheating. I’m just trying to answer the sociological question of why it’s a behavior that happens enough that we’re talking about it in this thread.