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yeah my partner grew up in a much more hostile area thn me in that sense , that definitely shaped our positions on this. Fortunately situations in our area also slightly improved in the years, so the threats for the child will hopefully be less acute. If the kid can stay carefree of this bullshit a few more years I consider that a win to be honest.

To add to that, in pre-colonial times a lot of cultures in Africa and the Americas (and possibly other places) had more inclusive gender systems than the west which got stomped out by european imperialists and christian missionaries. We’re still dealing with the fallout of that shit today.

Going through comments on popular threads often leave me with a slight whiff of (white) american ignorance unfortunately. The upside is that there are quite some users calling this out. Those users keep this place worthwile coming back to imho

Yesterday my partner and I had another talk about when to have ‘‘the racism conversation’’ with our now 2 year old.

My partner was barely three years old when being warned about racism and exclusion works, which in hindsight protected them but made them anxious at times as well. I didn’t had the conversation until my (pre-)teens, which kept me blissfully ignorant (thank gods for my slow wits lol), but also got me in some hairy situations. Probably we’ll wait until the damned moment will be there before we break it to the kid, not sure about it yet though.

In your defense, he is one of the larger adult sons out there

Oh stop it you !

I wish I had based friends like that

That was a intense read comrade, I hope you’re doing well now. The way you describe it I cannot imagine it otherwise than that she would’ve been proud of you

Dad ?