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hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i’ll add you to the list!
the list as it stands:
SILLY BEAN@lemmygrad.ml* (1/27 - 2/2) AshenWolf* (2/3 - 2/9) GayTuckerCarlson* (2/10 - 2/16) oscardejarjayes* (2/17 - 2/23) EstraDoll (2/24 - 3/2) Eco* (3/3 - 3/9) * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters
I dont post in these megas often but…
Today is my hrt removedversary. Gonna get all dolled up in a cute dress and put on some makeup and put some bows and flowers in my hair and then not go outside at all. I’ll be staying in with my dear woof and watching some anime :33333 .
“Relationships with parents can be difficult, but mine aren’t that bad, they tried to make me detransition and almost murdered me, but it could be worse
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this is like half of the trans people I know and it makes me concernedGot my first femme haircut yesterday afternoon, and I’m having intense gender feels from it
When I hope trans mega posters will support me doing risky behavior, but they instead insist that my behavior is risky
(fine, i will get my ears pierced at a studio instead of doing it in my bathroom)Going from dating as a cishet man to a trans lesbian is both a blessing and a curse
The relationships are so much better but holy shit it’s so much harder to just get a date
Not sure if it actually has to do with being trans but it’s so painful to my self esteem
Hello trans thread, I have been in a three month depression hole because I got unlawfully fired. I had to move out of my apartment because my unemployment isn’t enough to cover it. I am fortunate enough to be living with my partner. I also ran out of my medications, which has been even worse for my mind and caused me to go through withdrawals. Today is the first day in three months that I am going to bother to dress well or wear makeup, because spite is simply the most powerful motivator I have ever known. Death to America and death to all fascists.
Hope things get better
I came out to my mom, the last person I really cared to tell. And I mean on the bright side it could have been significantly worse. She told me she loved me and was sorry I was going it alone for so long, and suspected a conversation like this would happen eventually. She thought I might be gay and was waiting on me to tell her. Butttttttttt then I told her my name and pronouns and if she would have told me it was a cute name, I would have cried some good solid happy tears. But she didn’t. She said “I’m not sure I’d be able to use that yet. You’ll have to give me time.” Which to me reads like that’s never going to happen.
my mom was the same when i came out to her a few months ago, had the “oh i’m not surprised but i just thought you were gay” and the “i might need time to use your name and pronouns.”
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i wanted to give her some grace, figured it can take people some time to unlearn a reflex, but when it didn’t seem like she was putting in any effort or taking it seriously. i had to have a talk with her about it. i tried to explain how much it hurt in a way that wasn’t too aggressive or accusatory, but she just listed off things she thought proved she cared for me and respected my transness despite (in her words) “not updating her vocabulary in the timeframe i felt was appropriate.”
…the next time talked to her i got pretty blunt, told her that deadnaming or misgendering me was basically calling me a slur and that the “appropriate timeframe” to stop slurring is immediately, that she can’t care for or love or respect me if she can’t even address me with basic respect and dignity. i was very lucky and that got through to her, and she improved pretty quickly if for no other reason than she understood better how important it is to me.
obviously you know your own relation with your mom and your own relationship with conflict better than i do, but it may be helpful to be blunt with her about it? idk… i’m sorry if this isn’t helpful or if you’re not looking for advice
i hope she turns up for you. i hope she gives you the love and respect you deserve
I want to be a daughter so freaking bad
Find a Mommy!
12·2 months agoThat requires going outside and talking to people
I am currently accepting applications.
I’m terrified of being a bad person on the inside and it makes it so hard to let the real me out of the cage I’ve built for her
i think the fact i managed to mostly keep up femme voice while deeply crying during therapy means that i’m fucking crushing it out here
thinking i might need to
for a little while, all the news about trump is making me super anxious and im adjusting my anxiety meds rn lolI thought this site was actually purged of this, but no… We still have a bunch of fuckers running around calling people AMAB’S and AFAB’s for zero reason and refusing to acknowledge that their langue is harmful. They use AMAB as a noun literally as just a “woke” replacement for “biological male” when using any other kind of langue would have sufficed. ACTUALLY would rather just be called slurs on this website than that shit.
^ mealso bought a nice bra today and i’m a B cup now, that’s pretty cool
Came out to another friend and had a great 2 hour conversation catching up. And this morning my partner sent me a very risque selfie and many positive affirmations. I wish for all of my trans comrades to experience this amount of love all the time
