Since I was a toddler, my mother always told me:
Don’t have children, you’ll regret it. They ruin your life. My life was so much better before you two came asking. I never wanted to have kids. Having children was your father’s idea.
I always knew I ruined my parents’ lives, but they never resented me for it. They knew it wasn’t my fault, I didn’t choose to be born, they were the ones that had the birth control fail and then chose to not get plan B / an abortion. They didn’t plan on having a baby so young, but they did, so they buckled down and did the best they could.
I’ll always love them and do anything for them for that. They had so many other life plans that just went unfulfilled because of me and my siblings, but still they were always good and loving parents to us. And we don’t have to do that silly thing where they pretend that all they ever wanted in life was to be parents. We all know what really happened, and we all made the best of it together.
I definitely had a mom that resented me. Looking back, I was treated differently for sure. I have no doubt in my mind that when my parents found out that their second child was going to be twins, my existence was cursed purely by being the second born twin. Oh well, I can only move forward. I’m glad she’s dead.
Since I was a toddler, my mother always told me: Don’t have children, you’ll regret it. They ruin your life. My life was so much better before you two came asking. I never wanted to have kids. Having children was your father’s idea.
My sister had decided not to be 4 years old.
Huh?
I guess she died at 3 and the mother was mourning?
I always knew I ruined my parents’ lives, but they never resented me for it. They knew it wasn’t my fault, I didn’t choose to be born, they were the ones that had the birth control fail and then chose to not get plan B / an abortion. They didn’t plan on having a baby so young, but they did, so they buckled down and did the best they could.
I’ll always love them and do anything for them for that. They had so many other life plans that just went unfulfilled because of me and my siblings, but still they were always good and loving parents to us. And we don’t have to do that silly thing where they pretend that all they ever wanted in life was to be parents. We all know what really happened, and we all made the best of it together.
Jesus, that’s so unfair to both of you. So sorry for your loss.
I definitely had a mom that resented me. Looking back, I was treated differently for sure. I have no doubt in my mind that when my parents found out that their second child was going to be twins, my existence was cursed purely by being the second born twin. Oh well, I can only move forward. I’m glad she’s dead.