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  • bolshevikLovelace [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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    cw: transphobia

    transmasc friend had two different dates with bi girls who both had issues with him being pre-op, one even had the audacity to label him as afab. is the bisexuality in the room with us right now? also fuck cis people using agab language, it’s just inclusive misgendering xi-gun

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      I tend to think AFAB and AMAB should only be used in the first person past tense “when I was AFAB” etc. People using it as an adjective for other people is basically misgendering as you say.

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      Bi people having problems with trans people is fucking bizarre to me and its a lot of them.

      cis people using agab language

      genuinely the same shit as tim/tif, I hate them and bad things should happen to them. Literally the whole thing is not identifying with how we were born…

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        Bi people having problems with trans people is fucking bizarre to me and its a lot of them.

        The only queer person to ever ghost me for being trans was a cis bi guy. I was utterly confused when it happened, because I assumed bi people of all people to have the least amount of problems with someone being trans. But apparently even that is not a guarantee when you’re dealing with cis people.