This is a photo on my (f28)Instagram. My brother in law (m42) reacted to it in DM, and said the above. I feel I replied normally, but now my sister (f39) apparently saw the message and is saying that I engaged in hot discussions with her man! I am myself married and I feel so bad now. I told my husband who said I did nothing wrong. Any idea how I could approach my sister ?
Your husband is right, you didn’t do anything at all out of line, not if what’s in the screen shot is all there was.
The only one who said anything that might be “hot” was him, and even that was more creepy or inappropriate than hot.
Looks like she’s feeling hurt by him, and taking it out on you rather than face the possibility her husband was just thirst hunting her sister.
Only way I can think to approach her, assuming you don’t want to let her cool off for a while is to first block her husband, contact her via text and say that you had zero intent of anything whatsoever with him, that you’ve blocked him so no more miscommunications can occur, and leave it at that. You don’t have anything to apologize for in that screen shot, though I guess you could say you’re sorry if what you said got misconstrued.
Thanks for the detailed opinion. Just clarifying that my sister is mad for the part where I say I’m not hiding much, for her it was a willingness to engage in a talk about my breast size 🙄
I would have interpreted it as “well duh, where would I be hiding a bra in that picture”, but I guess it’s open for interpretation. In either case the problem here is his message, not your response. It’s pretty clear you’re not exactly eager to engage.
Jfc, was your sister dropped on her head as a baby? You may have answered, but it was his question, and you even objected to it.
Being real, in a similar situation, as much as I love my sister, I’d tell her to shove something unpleasant into an excretory canal. You’re a much calmer person than me to be willing to be the one to try and repair things here.
Hell, if one of her partners said something similar to my wife, I’d probably pick the object to serve as a rectal probe and do the work personally on that partner. But I know I’m a wee bit over prone to such things.
The funniest part of this to me is that the husband says she did nothing wrong.
My fiance would take a moment to reassure me, and then he’d be going hunting. I’d be calling my sister to warn her that he’s on the way and I’m not going to stop him.