Don’t get me wrong, he (17M) doesn’t have to enjoy everything I (18F) like, but he always talks about how much he hates my stuff.
I don’t like his stuff all the time, I like reading and he doesn’t for example. However, he doesn’t like a lot of things, and a post reminded me of this. He has to complain about how he doesn’t like it and how he doesn’t wanna watch stuff with me and how he doesn’t like this stuff and how he’s 17, so he’s so mature and can’t watch my “kid stuff”.
Unless he’s harming you or you really don’t like him, I wouldn’t recommend dumping him for this either. We’re talking in this thread about his immaturity and things he needs to learn, but you’re not immune to those either. This isn’t meant as an insult. We’re not born knowing this stuff. We mostly learn by “doing”, and usually the most effective lessons are learned from doing it wrong or making a mistake.
This is the time in your (and his) life when you are supposed to make mistakes as you explore the world and learn/decide who you are. I’m not talking high risk behavior with lifetime consequences like crime or having children yourself this young, but mistakes about how to treat people and how to expect to be treated, etc. This applies to romantic relationships as well as platonic friendships. You’re going to make mistakes. You’re going to hurt other’s feelings. You’re probably not doing that intentionally.
If you were to dump him right now just for this, you’d also lose the opportunities to learn. He’s making a mistake with you on this “kid stuff” position. You might be making mistakes on him on something else. Learn the lessons of life. Learn where your boundaries are. Learn who you are. Keep asking questions! You are doing life just fine right now.
This exactly.
Thank you so much! I didn’t see this as an insult at all, I don’t plan on breaking up with him. I plan on staying with him forever if it works out <3
He got into falling outs because apparently he didn’t listen to them or care but then he said expecting him to care and have empathy or listen was toxic and controlling. I try not to tell him to care because he struggles with empathy but, yeah. He may have struggles, but no one else can be more perfect for me than he can <3