I’m not asking to create drama but rather out of genuine curiosity. I will give big hugs to anyone who says their family is unsupportive. Mine is very much supportive and love me no matter what.
My family is genuinely great. Once they got past the short mandatory awkward phase everyone was totally jazzed that I was living my best life. My grandparents don’t always nessisarily “get it” but my coming out phonecall basically involved my mostly Deaf grandpa yelling in a stenotorian voice minutes after the news broke “(New Name) is a wonderful name kiddo! It suits you!”. My cousins on that side of the family were momentarily mystified but most of them did their own quick research and were super supportive.
Never let them tell you some folks are just too old. My 92 year old great great uncle already had an enby carer and he had told me before I came out “It saddens me they must struggle so much in this small town since they are such a beautiful soul.”
My Dad’s side of the family we just never bothered to tell. They all live far away and we basically haven’t seen them for over a decade and their bible thumping estranged them from us long before.
In short. I am blessed.
my parents and family that i live with all treat me well, my grandparents love me and just need it explained better, which is okay. theyre from another time
ive been actually considering getting an air horn for when they misgender/deadname me as ignoring them seems to work for the right words to happen lol
im lucky to be around the people i am, and feel for everyone not so fortunate. hugs your way ❤️
They know not to deadname me when talking to people outside the family. They don’t extend this courtesy in private. I perceive this as selective denial. I’m not close enough to them to care any more about this than I do about the way boomers treat me in general. I just think it’s weird.
My father thinks my queerness is a disability and my mother doesn’t take me seriously
It took some years to adjust, but everyone seems supportive now. My brother and cousins were immediately supportive
the only member of my immediate family that knows is my younger half-sister and she’s cool because her ex is trans. she’s very respectful of my neopronouns too.
i feel like the only other person that actually knows is my (former) stepdad’s girlfriend that i’m friendly with. i’m not sure if stepdad was ever cognizant of it, but i’m sure he would be cool after learning his nephew is trans.
if i’m careful and never return home, my mother will never know. dad will never know because he’s been dead a decade before i figured it out, but i think he would have been supportive based on him accepting my bisexuality and dating a trans girl about half my life ago. my dad’s former best friend (can’t imagine why he ever was the best friend tbh) hates his trans sister and also strong-armed me into breaking up with that trans girl…
Mom was great, sister is great. Father and I haven’t spoken in a decade. Rest of the family is ok
After 1 year, not out officially. They both pointed out some physical changes and have not pressed the issue when i was a brick wall about the topic. They used to both make crude anti-queer jokes occasionally and that kinda stopped… My friends that I consider family are incredibly supportive! One day I might come out to my parents, but I don’t feel like I owe it to them and I just don’t like them much for about a decade now so it’s not a huge loss!
My dad died but was more supportive than I ever knew. He would never initiate dialog, but anytime I ever asked for any advice or a situation I was going through, he’d help me work through it. No matter how embarrassing or wild. My only regret is not opening up dialogue earlier. I really didn’t start talking to my dad as a friend until I was well into my 20s. I always had the elder respect to my dad and never thought until later, that he could be my best friend, too.
My parents are conservative Christian pastors, but my mum has been treating me better lately. Dad says he’s “too old” to use my preferred name/pronouns.
I’m so sorryyyy :((
