Ok yeah the advice I always heard about bottom surgery (and found to be true) is that all it’ll change is your genitals. It won’t make you pass better unless you’re in something super tight or naked. It won’t make you feel better about yourself except genital dysphoria.
Has she had open conversations with post op trans women about it? That may be a good step for her.
2-3 weeks to heal is wishful thinking. That’s the first healing stage, after which my surgeon allowed me to do things more than light lifting. 4-6 weeks to return to work. 3 months to have sex. But healing generally continues until about a year post op. Incidentally it took me about a year to be able to orgasm (it’s been several years now and I’d say it’s probably easier now than pre op)
My surgeon was a reputable surgeon at a reputable institution and showed me pictures of her work during consultation and gave me realistic expectations. There were complications (there often are) but they were ultimately temporary issues. And the trans community gave me a realistic but positive expectation compared to my personal experience.
If you have any questions I may be able to answer some. If anything push your daughter to look up and ask around about surgeons (word gets around about bad ones) and push her towards reputable ones who are willing to make her feel comfortable in their care and who explain what’s going on and what’s going to happen to her.
Oh it can get worse, it was common for a while for trans women to name themselves after a character. Yeah a lot of Liliths used to be Lillies.
And yeah I have an ex with a Harry Potter tattoo and a trans kid
When you think people are watching you start acting weird, that causes people to watch. People might be looking or even watching tor any number of reasons. Maybe you don’t pass. Maybe you’re attractive to them. Maybe you look like someone they know. Maybe you look really nervous and they don’t know why.
As kindly as I can say this, it’s going to be scary until you’ve done it enough to be comfortable. Do it scared. Accept that it’s not the end of the world if someone you’ll never speak to thinks you’re trans unless it’s actively a dangerous place to be openly trans.
Also passing isn’t binary. I’ve had coworkers comment on me being trans at workplaces where other coworkers make remarks about my menstruation.
Yeah that’s the price of a used car
I’m not into pits, but I imagine it would taste and feel very bad to get deodorant on your tongue
It also helps that she keeps having different accounts, but they all have the word violet in them.
In general being prolific on here will get you well known. It’s a small site and frequent posters get recognized. Piss some people off or get them to doubt you are who you say you are and a lot of people will know your name
Oh, he doesn’t want to be rehired I assume
When you wake up having to pee in the middle of the night and don’t want to turn the light on
Also in general, as someone with a vulva, my mental model of a toilet is that the seat only is up for cleaning.
That’s the attention he gets off on. It’s not like he’s coming off as sane and tricking people into agreeing with him. He’s coming off like someone preaching on a street corner who isn’t even facing the right direction.
Just ignore him. If you can’t do that, condescend to him. But yeah he’s getting off on the attention, so don’t feed the troll
Good to know he’s consistent and dedicated. It’s lemmy, we’ve got all sorts of loonies over here, he’s just particularly nuts
Nah we’re just two timing on our partners
Hell I don’t even want to eat yellow bananas
Yeah doesn’t he know you’re supposed to eat more green food
Yeah, also calls because you placed an inquiry into a piece of heavy machinery or something similar. I used to get solicited sales calls on my work phone from time to time
Yep, I got professional, hick (Appalachianish), and my actual accent. Hick is more useful than one would assume
Good and crusty, but I should’ve made a larger loaf
Yeah that’s a midlands accent. It sounds hard to place, but you can tell where it isn’t. It’s not a Philadelphian, or a new Yorker, or anywhere on the east coast really (so many accents over there). Definitely not Californian or southern. So really it just sounds like the midwest (not Minnesota) or like it might be Pacific Northwest. The big thing though is it’s easy to understand. Boston or Baltimore for example would be terrible accents to make the default for newscasters.
Really it’s like how the BBC has an accent
From Ohio, I pronounce it wahr
If it’s for the former, yeahhhh
For the latter, well she’s a supportive mom who was happy to openly date a trans woman. She just hadn’t gotten around to covering up the tattoo