It’s fun, but condoms suck and the best sex is after you figure out what the other person likes, which can be hard to do after a few drinks and not much time.
I wouldn’t turn it down, but I prefer medium to long term friends with benefits.
Only way to get to know new people in Norway.
Grown ass consenting adults can do whatever they want in their private spaces.
I feel like we shouldn’t be so dramatic about sex (while it’s between consenting adults). I should be seen as a simple physical activity, healthy and pleasant, that demands skills and practice, with preventable risks. Like lots of non competitive physical activities, actually.
Due diligence. Find the best places to cruise, the best techniques. Learn where the shitty people are, etc. It can be so much fun when everything is consensual and all of like mind. Get tested on the regular, and expect the same.
I need explanation on “Cruising Culture”
As far as I know, it’s part of gay culture. It involves frequenting places well known to the community (parks, bars, saunas, etc.) where other men look for partners for quick sex.
Nah. I want to stay healthy and keep our relationship for just us. Have fun though 😎
i feel it’s 70/30 between fun/fine/neutral and awful. Though there is very little in between neutral and awful and that never has to do with the quality of the sex.
That said if it was good both sex and connection it wouldn’t end up a one-night stand so 🤷
personally I wouldn’t put my dick in a woman’s vag unless she offered a long term relationship. I’d happily do other things though!
Why is that the line?
mostly safety reasons. Plus I don’t have an impressive penis so it would theoretically filter out superficial bitches
More effort than they’re worth for me, and what other people do with their spare time isn’t my concern
Not my kind of thing, but people should be able to have whatever fun they want with their bodies as long as they’re not hurting anyone.
Devils advocate - promiscuous behavior can cause harm to others with the spread of stds unwanted pregnancies etc. (fyi I agree with you but this is the general argument against it)
Conditions and testing exists. Not using them is the problem behavior, not promiscuity.
Yeah but it’s manageable. Everyone in our community tests every 3 months, I also have the VPH vaccine.
The only one time I came close was 2 years ago, a friend called me and said she had gonorrea and I had to get tested. I didn’t have it but the chance was low anyway because I never have intercourse without condom. Even in relationships I don’t. I only do oral without. Condoms don’t bother me and I like the slightly reduced sensitivity so I can go longer and edging becomes easier. I even use condoms with toys.
The HPV vaccine I did want to get because it’s high risk now, there’s two variants which often cause cancer. And condoms don’t fully prevent it.
Go wild, just be safe.
I like it. It’s fun, sometimes you make a real connection and it feels really good. Sometimes not and it’s meh. But still it beats sitting at home alone.
I do really like to take my time though. Which can be an issue because surprisingly many people really want quickies.
For me it’s not right if I don’t spend at least an hour on foreplay, teasing etc. Chatting. Give an erotic massage, go down etc. I even like that better than intercourse. The whole bang bang bye in 10 minutes doesn’t really do it for me. But even in the very promiscuous culture it doesn’t have to be like that. Especially in the hetero scene.
When you find someone nice the mood can easily go that way and then it’s amazing. Also, it’s nice to share intimacy with different people, different energies. Sometimes it doesn’t happen but still it’s worth the try.
There’s nothing wrong with them as long as they are consensual. You spend a few hours with someone who you like. You both treat sex as a pleasant activity. Not a big emotional drama. You fuck. It’s fun. And then it’s over.
You have a few drinks with someone that you are meeting for the first time. You could go to a movie. But why not just fuck. Costs less and much more fun
When I was dating I avoided it, so not my thing really but I do not mind other people doing it as long as they show respect.
