I’m perma-banned on Reddit for accidental ban evasion (I don’t really want to get into it), so I came here as an alternative. But there isnt NEARLY as many communities or members as there are on reddit. But I cant go back there cus they perma banned me, that was 2 years ago when they first banned me.
Lemmy just isn’t the same, and I wish I could go back to Reddit, but that site is arguably more nerve-wracking to be on than anything else. What can I do?? What other alternatives do I have?
And no I cant really just not use reddit cus I primarily used it to ask questions about specific stuff or if I wanted someones opinion about a product or some thing. Reddit is often more useful than google is.
idk im just kinda upset and at a fuckin loss. What kinda website perma bans a user for life and logs all their info just to make sure they don’t come back?!
It’s not the size of the meat, it’s the motion.
Why are y’all downvoting the mfer? This is a “rant” community, and they’re ranting. It’s a worthwhile perspective to hear. Sure, they should spend their time making this a better place instead of pining over the corporate cesspool that’s written them off, but that’s a perspective you can upvote in comments.

Sounds like you have no agency nor the ability to change. In other words, you’re fucked.
So, the thing I’ve noticed about Lemmy is, a lot of people want to create topics and share them around. As someone who browses /all, I sometimes wanna block someone who posts the same article 10 times in a row (in different communities/instances) and then never interacts with any of them. That last bit bugs me. I swear, if Piefed (which is alternative software to Lemmy, but they’re mostly compatible) ever does something where it integrates crossposts… I’m jumping ship. The cool thing about federation is, you can do so easily. Export your settings, join a new instance, import… it’s supposed to be seamless. I haven’t tried it yet.
Anyway, the users I see often (there are a few) that I really value are the ones who start conversations and then they actually respond to people. Not everyone but they do respond. I think that is really the way to be. You/they/I don’t have to respond to everybody, but by responding to a few people, I feel that that encourages others to respond as well.
The problem is, or part of the problem is, a lot of us come from Reddit, and a lot of us were mistreated by mods or admins. I myself was banned for saying people who harm children should face stiffer punishments. I think that’s okay in and of itself, but the timing of my comment, they felt it was juxtaposed with the timing of the Trump-Epstein stuff. Reddit is owned by Condé Nast which is a right-wing publication house, so I guess it was a corporate decision. So people tend to wanna control things (or at least themselves) here, so you get more leaders or “leaders” or would-be leaders than followers. More OPs than commenters. And more mods than there are people to join and actively participate in those communities. So, engagement is the key!
What can I do?? What other alternatives do I have?
Lots of things, but how about one of them is to start help building this place into a good replacement for what you miss about reddit!
You don’t have to start big, or ever get big, just poke here and there, and wherever feels natural to you!
Also metafilter is cool too I guess.
Their permabans are not permanent. Use VPN. Or just wait a month or two. AND DO NOT SUBSCRIBE TO THE SAME SUBREDDITS. At least do not do it right from the start. That’s important.
So make a community, foster and grow it, be the change you want to see.
Be the change you want to see





