• zarkanian@sh.itjust.works
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    What’s wrong with “get a hobby”? I mean, you shouldn’t get a hobby with the express purpose of hitting on people, but getting a hobby is a way to make friends, and making friends is the only way I’ve ever gotten dates. The odds that you’re going to hit on a stranger and they’re going to go out with you are abysmal. It’s like searching for a job. You can send out dozens of resumes, but they’re all going to get turned down, and when you finally do get a job, it’s through a friend or a recruiter you know.

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      A) Assumes anyone single ceases to exist when not working. It’s absolutely insane to think “no gf, must be no hobby of course.” It’s more likely one’s hobbies just haven’t led to a romantic partnership.

      B) Is possibly the millineal version of gen x’s “gym” and boomers’ “grocery store,” women often say they don’t want to be asked out there either.

      C) Then the advice isn’t “get a hobby,” it’s pray your friends set you up with anyone.

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        It depends on the hobby. The last woman I dated was somebody I met through a board-gaming group. She asked me out. If it had been a Warhammer group, though, I probably would’ve remained single.

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          Lmao yeah probably. Actually I have been organizing a Steve Jackson board game day with some coworkers and it’s great, but afaik there’s no groups for this game in my area. The LGS has DnD, Magic, Warhammer, and that’s it. DnD is cool but short of your situation repeating for me I wouldn’t ask anyone, it’s still the only LGS and I can’t become the resident creep, I need Munchkin expansions, and tbh I really don’t have the time for DnD rn that’s a whole thing.