I totally get it. It’s why I try to just avoid either asking for them, or using them irl, if a person hasn’t volunteered them or otherwise made their gender known.

I’ve run into enough people that have issues with pronouns that it made me question how necessary it really is to use them. There’s times it’s unavoidable if you don’t want to do language gymnastics that make things more awkward and uncomfortable, but it’s kinda surprising how often it’s avoidable once the habit forms. Not that I always remember, but still.