LOCKED: people are getting too heated over a silly meme
go to s/parenting if you want to have a serious conversation about parenting
LOCKED: people are getting too heated over a silly meme
go to s/parenting if you want to have a serious conversation about parenting
You don’t own anything as a kid. Pay your own phone bill and you can call it yours
Any excuses for the other 3 things in that list?
Three things? He told her to do the dishes then took her phone when she didn’t. That’s exactly one thing.
I listed 4 things. “I will steal your stuff, violate your trust, manipulate you, and lie to you”. You only addressed “steal your stuff”. I’m waiting to see how you to excuse the other 3.
I mean, if that’s how you view it, that’s. you problem. You having the privilege of a phone as a condition of doing your chores isn’t “taking your stuff” or “violating your trust”.
The chores are a condition of the privilege. You not keeping up your end is violating the agreement. Not the other way around.
You sound spoiled.
So you got nothing other than gaslighting?
That’s not fucking gaslighting lmao. Maybe learn to google before you start using words you learned online
“Nothing was stolen from you.
Your trust wasn’t violated.
No one lied to you”.
Textbook gaslighting.
No, that’s just fucking facts.
You don’t own the shit as a kid. It isn’t yours, therefore cannot be stolen. It’s a privilege you get based on you meeting certain conditions.
If you violated the agreement of “you can have a phone if you keep up your chores”, you cannot have your trust violated when you are the one that didn’t do the chores and lost the phone. You are the one that broke the trust.
And the agreement is you get a privilege if you keep up your end of the deal. If you break it and suffer the consequences you were told from the start, there is no lie. If anything, the parent is showing that they were being honest and not lying to you, because they’re doing exactly what they said they would.
The gaslighting is you coming around and trying to change the whole thing to abuse when you don’t hold up your end of the deal. “You’re abusing me for keeping me true to the agreement I made” is bullshit.
When a parent gives their child trust, privacy, help, or even a phone, it is an expression of their love, and for it to be healthy it can’t be transactional.
A child’s clothes are THEIR clothes. A parent guides, helps, and is in charge of it, but it BELONGS to the child. Same goes for ALL their posessions.