No. That’s like living today and asking my politicians to punish, and eventually deport who are here illegally, the people who are committing crimes. I don’t care if they are jews, italians or whatever. You break the law you are punished. Simple as that.

And what makes you think those are actual problems in Saxony-Anhalt? Did you know it’s the German state with the least amount of immigrants and refugees? Look. And yet, a party who blames each and every problem on cultural and ethnic minorities seems to convince 44% of it’s population (and you, apparently) that this is the one issue they should focus on.

You are parroting propaganda.

A better country for every honest person, for example.

I asked you what good a AfD 2.0 would do, and that’s your answer? Way to show your true colours.

Insulting who do not voted for you is the best way to win back their votes… sure.

Nice try, but nothing what I wrote was an insult. Being uneducated, poor, or desperate is hardly one’s own fault. We need to start acknowledging that so many of us are being systematically disadvantaged by capitalism, which - surprise! - steals our knowledge, money, and happiness.

And the only way you can do this is solving the problems people have, or think to have, so that populists and fascists can no longer use these as bogeyman.

We need to solve the problems they have, not the problems fascists want them to think they have. If you try to frame the AfD’s policies as actual solutions to legitimate problems you’re simply reproducing their propaganda. That’s like if you lived in 1933 and asked your politicians to deport a few Jews just in case, because those poor NSDAP voters had a problem (or thought to have a problem) with them.

Populism needs to be called out, dump policies need to be called out, lies and propaganda need to be called out, that’s the only way to handle them. Your misguided understanding won’t solve anything. If you were head to a big party and decided today to “address the issues” of the AfD, which “the others choose to ignore” as you wrote, best case scenario you would become the AfD 2.0. What good would that do?

The solution isn’t to ALSO blame immigrants, the solution is to solve the underlying problems.

Exactly my point.

Meeting the AFD at their terms (“inhaltlich stellen”) is exactly what the CDU tried, and look where that got them.

Answering facism with “well okay maybe we do have too many outsiders and queer people” doesn’t solve facism, it simply creates more. And at the end of the day people still vote for the OG facists, so you lose across the board.

What we really need is to stop offering populists and facists the stage. We have to place the issues that are actually important instead of this fucking fear mongering. People don’t vote AFD for their legitimate policies! People vote facists if they’re uneducated, poor, and desperate. We need to offer education and realistic opportunities of economical advancement and happiness. Want to guess which party doesn’t offer that at all and instead will make all three significantly worse for working people? THE FUCKING AFD.

Judging by their reaction, having a fleshlight on one’s porch seems like a sensible idea.

As a psychotherapist, working with people who are self-aware is a pleasure. I wouldn’t ever say that to someone if not meant as a genuine compliment.

Although I believe not many of our patients actually are as self aware as they think. I think we as humans often are good in introspection where it’s easy and comfortable to do so, while glaring over pretty blatant cognitive errors in some other parts, and this is usually where problems arise and disorders develop. And interestingly some people seem to think of themselves as someone who’s perfectly introspective but just for some external, unchangeable factor immune to any kind of positive change. Maybe they could feel irritated about the compliment, because in their minds it reinfoces their idea of being helpless against their problems (in the sense of: I already know everything, it’s just not possible to change anything or I would’ve already done that)? I could imagine that’s how I would feel, but of course it’s just a guess.

Man könnte eine Bereitschsftsflotte bereithalten, aber wer will das bezahlen?

Jeder einzelne, wenns nach dir geht? Das ist doch im Grunde die Idee. Auch wenn autofreie Städte möglich wären, sollen wir sie nicht bauen, damit im Notfall jeder im eigenen Auto fliehen kann.

Also Individualverkehr zu reduzieren, so sinnvoll und wichtig es aus Umwelt- und Infrastrukturgründen auch wäre, geht nicht, weil Leute sich gerne ausmalen wollen, wie sie sich im Fall der Apokalypse auf eigene Faust mit ihren alten Verbrennerkarren durchschlagen.

Das ist mindestens mal ein sehr neurotisches Framing.

Was spricht gegen Evakuierung durch Öffis?

Vor allem Milchmischgetränke

Auf einen fertigen Kakao oder Eiskaffee aus Hafermilch wird die Abgabe gelten, bei Einsatz von Eutersaft nicht 🤡

Danke ZDF an der Stelle für einen tollen Streisand-Effekt, so hören schlussendlich sicher noch viel mehr Leute dieses fantastische Stück

Bangladesh is so fucking asymmetric

WHY

you fail to understand that people can have very real and ernest friendships that are different from your presuppositions around friendship

What makes you think that? It’s nice if you don’t put on a front in different social settings, but many people absolutely do. Which in itself I find completely understandable. We are social animals and deeply dependent on being accepted and loved, and society certainly doesn’t hold back with expectations, which most of us then try to meet in one way or another.

I tend to not talk about myself that much anyway (I also have a therapist, which may contribute to my not feeling like I need to), and when I’m with friends who do, I mostly listen

If that’s what you prefer more power to you, just would be tragic if you did so because you felt pressured into it.

And it just so happens that society does put the expectation on men especially not to overshare, to rarely show vulnerability if at all, to be strong for others, to silently endure.

That doesn’t mean men who adhere to those expectations can’t legitimately have fun with their friends (or even feel like that’s all they want from friendships).

And maybe you are 100% capable of chosing how open and trusting you are, devoid of all social expectations, I don’t know you. Maybe you just so happen to arrive at a set of behaviours that match what society wants and expects from men. If not, this is something that we as a society have taken away and in a way continue to withhold from you. And that would indeed be sad, just because of how unfair that would be. It certainly is for the many people out there who are in fact incapable of this other kind of friendship (e.g. where you assign value to your feelings and experiences and want to share them) - not by an informed choice, but through subtle social pressure. That’s what I meant originally.

Makes sense. In any case, it’s great he’s getting help. Hope he gets better soon!

To be fair psychiatrists in Germany see you for just as short a time. Psychotherapists see you for an hour a week. Psychiatrists just prescribe medication and don’t actually talk to you beyond that.

Many people don’t know the difference though so your friend might simply believe they get an hour with a psychiatrist. And than there’s the rare exception of a psychiatrist who is in fact also a trained psychotherapist. Most of them still call themselves psychiatrist, because doctors have a much higher social standing than psychologists (which in germany most psychotherapists are). Its complicated. But in general: Most psychiatrists have very little time for their patients.

(Source: Am psychotherapist in Germany and know our complicated system very well.)

When I am with a gal friend a kinda switch gears

Doesn’t that make you stop and think? Why is it necessary to swich gears at all? I mean what’s actually your authentic self and why is he not allowed in (at least?) one of those situations?

Damn that’s sad

nothing we do will matter in a million years

But it will still be the truth.

Maybe what we do won’t matter in the sense of having a discernable effect, but there is something eternal about every bit of us anyway. In a million years it will still be true that once there was a fresh parsnip on this strange small platform called lemmy, hitting buttons on a keyboard and communicating with people from all over their little wet rock of a planet, attempting to connect and to understand. Every kindness of you, every act of bravery, everything you’re proud of in your past is now as true as it was then and as it will be next year. And that will never go away. F o r e v e r.

(Of course, this is also correct for everything we’re ashamed of - but if we try to make the best of it, that too becomes a universal truth about us.)

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Nice. And anyway, no shade whatsoever to libraries, they deserve every penny they get. Absolutely fair to pay for replacements in my book.

If items are one month overdue, we will bill you for the replacement cost.

I mean… I get it, but that sound like a fee to me.