Also Individualverkehr zu reduzieren, so sinnvoll und wichtig es aus Umwelt- und Infrastrukturgründen auch wäre, geht nicht, weil Leute sich gerne ausmalen wollen, wie sie sich im Fall der Apokalypse auf eigene Faust mit ihren alten Verbrennerkarren durchschlagen.
Das ist mindestens mal ein sehr neurotisches Framing.
Was spricht gegen Evakuierung durch Öffis?
Vor allem Milchmischgetränke
Auf einen fertigen Kakao oder Eiskaffee aus Hafermilch wird die Abgabe gelten, bei Einsatz von Eutersaft nicht 🤡
Danke ZDF an der Stelle für einen tollen Streisand-Effekt, so hören schlussendlich sicher noch viel mehr Leute dieses fantastische Stück
Bangladesh is so fucking asymmetric
WHY
you fail to understand that people can have very real and ernest friendships that are different from your presuppositions around friendship
What makes you think that? It’s nice if you don’t put on a front in different social settings, but many people absolutely do. Which in itself I find completely understandable. We are social animals and deeply dependent on being accepted and loved, and society certainly doesn’t hold back with expectations, which most of us then try to meet in one way or another.
I tend to not talk about myself that much anyway (I also have a therapist, which may contribute to my not feeling like I need to), and when I’m with friends who do, I mostly listen
If that’s what you prefer more power to you, just would be tragic if you did so because you felt pressured into it.
And it just so happens that society does put the expectation on men especially not to overshare, to rarely show vulnerability if at all, to be strong for others, to silently endure.
That doesn’t mean men who adhere to those expectations can’t legitimately have fun with their friends (or even feel like that’s all they want from friendships).
And maybe you are 100% capable of chosing how open and trusting you are, devoid of all social expectations, I don’t know you. Maybe you just so happen to arrive at a set of behaviours that match what society wants and expects from men. If not, this is something that we as a society have taken away and in a way continue to withhold from you. And that would indeed be sad, just because of how unfair that would be. It certainly is for the many people out there who are in fact incapable of this other kind of friendship (e.g. where you assign value to your feelings and experiences and want to share them) - not by an informed choice, but through subtle social pressure. That’s what I meant originally.
Makes sense. In any case, it’s great he’s getting help. Hope he gets better soon!
To be fair psychiatrists in Germany see you for just as short a time. Psychotherapists see you for an hour a week. Psychiatrists just prescribe medication and don’t actually talk to you beyond that.
Many people don’t know the difference though so your friend might simply believe they get an hour with a psychiatrist. And than there’s the rare exception of a psychiatrist who is in fact also a trained psychotherapist. Most of them still call themselves psychiatrist, because doctors have a much higher social standing than psychologists (which in germany most psychotherapists are). Its complicated. But in general: Most psychiatrists have very little time for their patients.
(Source: Am psychotherapist in Germany and know our complicated system very well.)
When I am with a gal friend a kinda switch gears
Doesn’t that make you stop and think? Why is it necessary to swich gears at all? I mean what’s actually your authentic self and why is he not allowed in (at least?) one of those situations?
Damn that’s sad
nothing we do will matter in a million years
But it will still be the truth.
Maybe what we do won’t matter in the sense of having a discernable effect, but there is something eternal about every bit of us anyway. In a million years it will still be true that once there was a fresh parsnip on this strange small platform called lemmy, hitting buttons on a keyboard and communicating with people from all over their little wet rock of a planet, attempting to connect and to understand. Every kindness of you, every act of bravery, everything you’re proud of in your past is now as true as it was then and as it will be next year. And that will never go away. F o r e v e r.
(Of course, this is also correct for everything we’re ashamed of - but if we try to make the best of it, that too becomes a universal truth about us.)
Nice. And anyway, no shade whatsoever to libraries, they deserve every penny they get. Absolutely fair to pay for replacements in my book.
If items are one month overdue, we will bill you for the replacement cost.
I mean… I get it, but that sound like a fee to me.
Was für coole Kostümideen ey! Hexe als Clown verkleidet - geil. Ich war Cowgirl (lange bevor ich wusste was “sexy” heißt), Piratenkapitänin, Walküre, solche Dinge. Lauter Kriegerinnen. Und das beste waren immer die Gadgets, und Pistolen waren die besten Gadgets, weil viele bewegliche Teile und eindrucksvolle Effekte. Mit dem Plastikring im Bild konnte man nachladen, ein paar Mal schießen, und dann roch alles nach Schwarzpulver, metallisch und rußig, und nach verschmortem Plastik. Absolut ikonischer Geruch, hab ich direkt wieder in der Nase.
Vielleicht bist du nicht zu weiblich sozialisiert um das zu kennen, sondern zu pazifistisch? ;)
Das abgebildete Produkt heißt ja aber auch gar nicht Milk. Sondern Notmlk.
Yeah, the native functions works for most apps, but not discord unfortunately. But thanks alot for looking around! Will try your solution when I get back home tonight.
I’m using mint with cinnamon.
I did try to look for a solution online, found other annoyed users with the same problem and no solution, and kinda gave up tbh.
Maybe I do have to switch at least the DE in order to solve this, but at the end of the day it’s really just a small annoyance.
The problem is that discord forces itself in front of every other window I currently use on the main monitor, twice, while it starts and auto updates. Manually dragging it away once it’s open is the smaller annoyance compared to the distraction of having to switch back to my other application two times in a row. And I guess the only solution would be for it to start on the secondary monitor in the first place, so it could go and take center stage where it doesn’t annoy and distract me.
Jeder einzelne, wenns nach dir geht? Das ist doch im Grunde die Idee. Auch wenn autofreie Städte möglich wären, sollen wir sie nicht bauen, damit im Notfall jeder im eigenen Auto fliehen kann.