

I’m an SE, have the issue where I complain to friends making more than half what I make and they just scoff at me because I should be happy that I make money/have a job/etc. Complained to a therapist that I need to quit because this job will kill me, told don’t do that the market is bad and you make a lot of money.
All the bottling up left me even more burned out because there’s truly no end in sight and no one to listen to my woes about this “amazing job” that’s absolutely killing me.
I feel this so hard, no one really sympathizes when you have a “good job” that’s making you miserable, and it feels foolish to just walk away, so you end up feeling stuck. I’ve been at my current job for over 14 years now and even though it keeps getting steadily worse*, and I keep getting lonelier (and older), I can’t think of a better alternative, so I just stay put.
*Nowhere near as bad as OP has it, though; I recently let my GitHub copilot license lapse because I never use it, and no one has criticized me for doing so. But that, too, only contributes to the too-good-to-leave issue.
















Why let publishers gatekeep you? Indie publishing is easier than it’s ever been (not joking). You do probably have to make a deal with the devil (Amazon), but it’s definitely doable.