Disability is indeed a burden, yet I hope for a world where we don’t have to carry our individual burdens all alone. Let the mega continue to a be a place where all of us can at least listen and make the burden somewhat lighter.
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My bladder is no better. I can’t get any sleep. And I think someone on lemmy is teasing me with promises of help that don’t come through. A person there answered my mutual aid post to say he wants to help but then keeps making excuses. First he turned down every available option like paypal, anything that takes debit/credit cards, and every other type of payment, saying they don’t have paypal, debit/credit cards or the other types of payment in his country. Then he said the only thing he can do is a bank transfer but he needs to go somewhere to do it and he can’t get there for weeks, and maybe not at all. Like, why even contact me to offer help if nothing is convenient for him? Also I don’t think I’d want to give my bank details to a complete stranger anyway. As if this isn’t disappointing enough, he posted his offer of help in the thread, but then sent all of his “can’t do this payment method…” messages through DMs, which makes it look to everyone else like I am being helped, when I am not. Which means other people who might have helped won’t bother now. It’s like he’s gone out of his way to stop me getting help from other people while giving no help himself. Someone on lemmy once strung me along like that for weeks and got banned, I’m wondering if this is the same person under an alt account. And I find it hard to believe there’s a country where they don’t even have credit or debit cards.
EDIT: Just checked my account and wow! Someone else came through! Now I don’t need to worry about it.
I’m glad someone came through after all.
In my country it’s somewhat common to not have a credit or US style debit card. We have our own payment system that doesn’t work well on international sites. This is why many people use paypal as it enables us to pay internationally as well.
But that doesn’t discount the fact that this person is being the opposite of helpful by making false promises and not delivering. It must be very exhausting to deal with that on a regular basis :/
It is, very. I suggested everything from cards to paypal to crypto to apple pay to google pay, he said he doesn’t have any of them and probably can’t get to the bank to do a transfer. Why contact me at all then? And why leave a message in the thread saying he’s going to help me, and then send private messages saying he doesn’t have any payment methods and can’t help after all? makes me think he was trying to sabotage my thread for some reason.
It could definitely be sabotage. Leaving a message in the thread if you’re not even sure you can deliver on it does seem suspicious
it wouldn’t be the first time either.
I think we should assume incompetence before malice of our fellow hexbears.