My guilt comes from a variety of sources: lesbians saying that they don’t care about size (which is perfectly valid), women with big bosoms complaining about the pains that they cause (also valid), and scientists finding a correlation between misogynistic boys and a preference for enormous knockers. I’ve even read that some girls have ended their lives over dissatisfaction with their sizes. Basically, I have this impression that a preference for massive mammaries is something that only ‘trashy straight boys’ have, therefore I feel guilty by association.
That said, I try not to be a jerk either: I don’t shun or mistreat ladies for having small breasts, and I wouldn’t fight tooth and nail to prevent somebody from getting a reduction either. As long as she is happier with her smaller breasts, that’s great! I’m happy for her! And I don’t mind being friends with somebody who has small breasts either! So I like to think that I am not that shallow of a person. Also, maybe this is usual but I tend to associate big boobs with power and I would much rather be dominated by huge honkers than vice versa.
None of this erases my guilt, though.
Is my preference a problem that I should try to fix or am I worrying too much?
It’s not a problem. I also prefer busty women. That’s not to say I only find large breasted women attractive, I’ve found women of many shapes and sizes beautiful, but when push comes to shove big tits just really do it for me.
And yeah I get the discomfort. Hell, I’m insecure about my medium sized boobs. But I’ve been in relationships where I’m the boob girl with a killer ass and my partner is an ass girl with a killer rack, so it has worked.
That said, you may have some hangups and fetishization here based on what you’ve said. Like, don’t get me wrong, being dominated by a woman with tits the size of my head is a description of one of my ideal sexy nights. But large breasts aren’t dominant, they’re just socially favored, in the same way being tall is. And you gotta make sure you’re looking at the person the boobs are on even while lusting after her. Because yeah, they’re awesome but when you’re done cowering in their shadow and done burying your face into them for aftercare, you’re hanging out with her more than them, and the whole time you were doing all that you were doing it to her. They’re just a body part she has, and if you forget that you just give her another reason to feel insecure about them outshining her.
But large breasts aren’t dominant, they’re just socially favored, in the same way being tall is. And you gotta make sure you’re looking at the person the boobs are on even while lusting after her.
Yeah, this is another…issue…that I wanted to discuss later. I try not to let my lust override my normal social interactions, and I try not to forget that women are more than just bodies parts…but I have this, uh…weird kink where I am more turned on if I can’t see the receiving lady’s face. There is just something about obsessing over a lady’s other body parts that I find especially arousing, and I can’t explain why.
I feel awful saying it because it really sounds like I get turned on objectifying others, but like I said: I try not to let my fetishes override my normal social interactions; I like to think that I can still wake up from my weird fantasies and treat bathykolpian women like ordinary people again.
Are you gonna have to bonk me now?
I’m not really sure there is a good reason to feel shame for what you find attractive - does your guilt actually help anyone else? What good does it serve?
Also, you have to understand that finding a correlation between misogyny in boys and a preference for larger breasts is looking at a variety of people - not every misogynistic boy has a preference for larger breasts, not every person who likes large breasts is misogynistic.
Regardless you’re not a boy, and to whatever extent you embody misogynistic values or norms, I don’t think your attraction to large breasts is a good example of misogyny.
As a side note, it’s not uncommon for sapphic women to feel guilty for their attraction to women, often articulating that it makes them pervy or bad feminists, etc. - and you see a lot of language like “looking, respectfully” to try to communicate that cognitive dissonance … but I think we shouldn’t feel guilt for our attraction to women, and as a woman I like when people are attracted to me and don’t want people to “look respectfully”, lol.
So pls get over it, stop being a useless lesbian and embrace your love of big breasts.
i love big boobs, and want mine to be size abl myself, but we shall see lol. either way having a preference for the kind of body you find attractive is a extremely normal experience, and your not fetishizing women, your respecting them so in the end thats what matters, that and any partners you may have i suppose, but thats another conversation entirely lol
I love My bazonkadonks and I’m glad My partners love them too. I worked really hard for them, I took estrogen pills every day and even invented a magic spell to make them bigger. Liking bahoombalombs is fine.
Please don’t.
Yours truly,
A big breast haverHi 🤤
Hello!
Small boob haver here, don’t worry about it. We all have our preferences. As long as you aren’t making anyone feel worse about it, you do you. I’ve definitely gotten shamed for my size, often inadvertently, and it really doesn’t feel good. That being said, I also prefer larger boobs and I’m very happy that my girlfriend is on the bigger side. Just be respectful and don’t let casual comments hurt anyone who might have insecurities, regardless of their size.
Your preferences can change. So, don’t worry about it. If your preference would have been different you could feel guilty about that too.
Your preference for your own body is about you, no one else. Personally, I never wanted huge ones, but I wouldn’t mind larger if only because many clothing styles are tailored for them by default. But none of that is what’s important. It’s your body. Be you.
