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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • “There is no ethical consumption under Capitalism” is a useful parallel concept. One can consume at least more ethically by buying in solidarity with, eg, Fairtrade sellers, local sellers, co-ops, or maybe living a vegan lifestyle.

    Not to be confused with finding an ethical form of capitalism. It doesn’t exist. Any system designed to maximize profit will put any other goals (like human rights) secondary.

    I think working in this society is similar. I can choose the more ethical option from the limited options available to me and work to make my life and the lives of people around me better. But I can’t find or create a system that is ethical. Even that co-op referenced above probably has suppliers who are less ethical, or they may have to rent from a profit-driven landlord.

    I try to focus on small improvements over my baseline rather than thinking anything short of immediate perfection is a failure.


  • The fact that you’re asking/concerned tells me you’ll probably be ok.

    I’m an American who moved to Australia for a while. I wasn’t ever pegged as an American because of my voice volume. What caught me was my smile; easy-coming with white, straight teeth exposed. I was told I could be confused for a Canadian except that I spoke too fast. Apparently, the speed-quipping Letterkenny sorts hadn’t made it to Australia yet.

    Also, think about what you want by “assimilation”. You would probably enjoy getting to know an Aussie visiting the US, no? Getting to hear their perspective on the country they’re visiting? Enjoying seeing them experience our cultural quirks? Assume the same good faith of Australians. Current politics aside, Americans and Australians have a very friendly history. Just don’t be an asshole about it, continuously pointing out how everything is different/better in the US.

    My weirdest, most uncomfortable repeat experience had a gendered element that you probably won’t experience but your wife might. Older (50+) dudes on several occasions took the liberty of telling me, an American woman, all about how American soldiers stationed in Australia during l WW2 “stole” all the womens’ attention. They were just so hygienic and handsome in their uniforms, the Aussie men didn’t have a chance. So yeah, some might have a weird grudge over their fathers or grandfathers going through a dry spell almost a century ago. I share this story to illustrate that people are people, same is Australia. You will neither be universally liked nor universally hated by all Australians. Most of them are decent sorts, and a few of them are massive assholes.

    Don’t attempt shrimp on the barbie or baby-eating dingo jokes until you know a person very well.


  • Treading on “beyond the scope of internet randos”, imo.

    Medical: I hope you’re getting your kiddo properly cared for after these bites. Infection care. Stitches. Whatever. (Not a doctor, talk to a real one)

    Legal: varies by location (varies by state if in the US), bites may be reported and the decision may eventually be taken out of your hands. Many have a “one bite” rule where the owner gets one freebie and then any bite after that, they’re liable because they knew their dog was a biter and yet continued to put others at risk. (not a lawyer, do your own research).

    Practical: keep your kid and dog separated. Period.

    Professional advice: this is where online advice really falls flat bc we’re not experts (even if one claims to be , we could be lying) and we don’t get know your specific dog. Talk to a vet, or ask them for recommendation to a good trainer. Get better training for the dog to where it doesn’t bite kids or decide with professional support that the dog would be better off re-homed. (Not a vet or dog trainer, talk to real ones)

    What you can’t do is march along without changing anything, knowing your dog will continue to bite your kid.









  • Most days it’s an Areopress, sometimes V60. Very rarely, moka or phin. I can and do skip coffee. I do 3 days in a row “dry” every month or so to keep an eye on caffeine addiction. If I get headaches, I take a longer break and dial back usage.

    I backcountry backpack and have started carrying caffeine pills in my first aid kit. Not for myself, but for people I run into who are suffering from withdrawal headaches. I’ve met a couple people who drink several cups per day in their normal life, then cut to one while backpacking or none at all, not realizing they’ll go through withdrawal.