As a man who already thinks like this I feel like I’m stuck inside some kind of limbo where I’m complicit because I’m a man but expected to be silent because I’m not the type of man they’re referring to.
Even more fun, I was sexually abused by a guy as a kid, but I get to be constantly assumed and treated as the abuser rather than the victim.
It’s absolutely not the goal, but I’ve just tuned completely out of any gender discourse online, because it feels like it’s only ever shitty.
You could like, make sure you challenge other men. That’s kind of the issue, it’s not that there’s too many men who do this to require this response, but that the vast majority of men are more afraid of confronting other men than they are being silent about something they’re morally apprehensive about.
Pretty sure that’s the like, one of the main things that sexual violence prevention education and research targets is that men are overwhelmingly complicit in rape culture.
This is what is really needed. Calling out others for bad or unhealthy behavior when it’s seen but don’t go looking for it.
I lost a former good friend because he violated his wife and separately cheated on her. All of our friend group kept being friends with him even after he admitted to the allegations.
I get forgiveness, but he doesn’t learn if he faces no consequences and no one is even willing to say “that’s fucked up man” or “I won’t be friends with someone like you”.
For lesser things, a “dude, that’s gross” or “wtf is wrong with you” goes a really long way.
We also know that men who are more likely to be perpetrators of sexual violence are typically more misogynistic and anxious about their position in a perceived hierarchy (rape is not about sex, it’s about power). So, yes, being perceived as less of a man for perpetrating or at the very least, not challenging sexual violence, is actually an effective deterrent.
A major problem is what you just described, which is that most men are actually quite insecure about challenging other men, and therefore often participate in social groups where that kind of deterrent is punished. There’s two men in this thread already who were angered by the suggestion that they have to risk their social standing to contribute to sexual violence prevention, when they thought not being rapists themselves was all they had to do. It’s also important to remember that this doesn’t mean they haven’t also committed some form of gender based and sexual violence, since they typically don’t know what qualifies as that beyond overt sexual assault.
So if someone says “hey, we should rape some women” you think most (the vast majority in your words) men that don’t consider raping women would stay silent? Like we don’t have wives, mothers and daughters?
What a bullshit strawman.
Refer to comment above, shut up otherwise.
Like the above comment I am also a man who already finds the idea of rape abhorrent, and always did. This is also true, as far as I am able to discern, of all my friends and people I regularly associate with.
But I’m still in the described situation, where the prevalent messaging implies that I am somehow complicit and not doing enough. Am I expected to interrogate my coworkers and people on the street just in case, so I can confront them on these opinions if they happen to have them? Clearly not, but there’s still this unspoken pressure that I should be doing more, and I have no idea what that looks like.
edit: Making this comment was a mistake.
A great place to start is recognizing your own responsibility and recognizing that despite the fact that you find rape abhorrent, you have likely done it without knowing.
Recognizing that is a good first step.
I remember having this same conversation with my husband years ago and seeing how disgusted he felt with himself when he realized that pestering his highschool girlfriend until her “not right now” turned into a “sure okay” was, in fact, rape.
Realizing that good people are capable of rape, and that we are human, and that consent matters above all else is a place to start.
Realizing that even when a woman says “asking for consent ruins the mood” that she is internalizing rape culture and that it doesn’t mean you should stop asking tor consent is a place to start.
Fuck, I used to say that when I was young and stupid, and I realize now that I was wrong and absolutely internalized rape culture. I now think asking for consent is very sexy now that it’s recontextualized.
A good place to start is reflecting and recognizing all the ways you have perpetuated rape culture in your life.
Do not assume that you haven’t, because you have. You may not have intended to, but we all have perpetuated it.
You are not exempt from this and assuming we are innocent is what keeps us from progress.
Don’t engage, the guy is a “woe-is-me” who is playing stupid about the topic.
Clearly!
Starting a post with an accusation of rape isn’t really a great starting position, and frankly I find it disturbing that the default assumption is that it is likely I have pressured someone for sex at some point in my life. I have accepted a “not right now” as a no for as long as I can recall, and the idea that someone might actually suggest that “asking for consent ruins the mood” is, frankly, insane to me.
I did take a moment to reflect, and came up with nothing. I can think of one instance where I tried to initiate, but I felt my partner tense up before anything really happened. What happened next was I immediately stopped. She didn’t even say no, but I knew she didn’t want to continue.
I’m sorry your husband committed rape, and that you have apparently internalized the idea that all men are probably rapists to perhaps help accept that fact. I am not.
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I get the idea you’re not even buying what you’re selling here with how defensive you got. I don’t believe that you even believe you’ve never broken a boundary.
Truly, I don’t give a fuck if you have, because I don’t think fucking up when you’re young makes you a bad person. You asked what else you can do, I said self-reflect. Maybe do that in private for more than 5 minutes. Don’t report back.
I honestly do apologize. Feel free to ignore this since you said don’t report back, but I wanted to reply after some more reflection regardless.
You’re correct that I don’t believe I’ve broken a boundary, but I also am willing to accept that I’m simply not aware of a boundary I’ve broken. Unfortunately I remain unaware. I hope you understand that I am unable to comment on things I’m not aware of, and for better or for worse that’s simply where I stand right now.
For whatever it’s worth, if there is some boundary I’ve crossed, I’m sorry for that. I want to emphasize that’s not a “I’m sorry you feel that way” non-apology but a genuine remorse for whatever harm I’ve caused someone. I don’t want to hurt people.
In addition to the general apology, I want to directly apologize for my closing paragraph about your husband. It was uncalled for.
I will not be further editing or removing any of my prior comments to cover up statements I regret, as I believe complete context is important for anyone who stumbles across this later.
Not expecting a reply. I hope you find other interactions more pleasant than this one.
Yeah dude, “you’re projecting trauma” as a response to someone pointing out that these are values that are dominant in our society – as I have said multiple times – really shows how open you are to thinking about how your internalized values effects your participation in the reproduction of rape culture.
You know you are using the exact talking points we use to teach teens about rape culture, right? Like, word for word in some instances. Red flags all around for not an “aggressive” person, but more of a coercive, manipulative kind of perpetrator (something you see with a lot of “socialist” men who don’t do the dishes). At this point, there’s a high chance you’ve committed gender based or sexual violence with how you’ve been talking, because our culture literally socialized you to do it without even thinking and you’re proudly saying “No, I think enough and have determined for myself that I’m not a problem.” If you don’t want to seem like the kind of person we teach people to look out for, maybe shut the fuck up and learn something.
I’m fairly certain you’re disingenous, but I wanted to make sure this was here in case others followed the thread above and don’t see someone else point out the issues here.
Those values are dominant in our society! If anything I’ve said has been construed in such a way that you think I believe otherwise then I apologise.
To be clear, rape culture is a real problem, and I do see evidence of that in society at large. I have no idea what I can do about it, as my own social circles are non-representative.
edit: Oh, and I do, in fact, do the dishes.
Cool, refer to the sources I listed above. Yes, you are expected to fucking confront other men when you see them contributing to rape culture. If you’re so disgusted by sexual violence, that should not be an issue for you.
I have to confront them all the time just to defend myself, I’m sure you could handle it.
when you see them contributing to rape culture
What, the grand total of zero times? I don’t go to bars or clubs, I don’t go to parties where there are an appreciable number of people I don’t know. The social contexts in which I do interact with people I’m not close to are either in-passing where there’s no way to make that assessment, or professional, in which case we’re both under considerable social constraints and such behaviour is not likely to arise even from someone with such predilections.
I’m willing to accept that maybe back in highschool I wasn’t as aware of these issues and may have let an instance slide here or there, but even if I did recall such an event that was more than two decades ago, and I’m not going to hunt down someone I haven’t seen in twenty years to admonish them after the fact.
Though come to think of it, there was one instance of it in an online chat within the past few years, and I did say something, which led to them basically flying off the handle and getting kicked from the server, so there’s that at least. I guess I’m one for one?
D’ja read’em?
I looked at your links. No, obviously I didn’t read three entire books in a couple of hours.
I’m also not saying it’s not a real problem that exists, which seems to be the point you’re trying to make. If it makes you feel any better I am willing to call out such behaviour if I see it happen. I just don’t see it happen, because the people I regularly socialize with aren’t assholes.
See, the thing is, you obviously didn’t even look up “rape culture,” or fully read my previous comments, because you’d know that rn you’re trying to claim that you never see dominant values in society through your interactions with other men (apparently, you don’t have any family).
I don’t give a shit about the people who are more interested in maintaining their moral purity than actually participating in positive social change. You are primarily concerned with asserting that you’re not a bad person for being complicit. Despite finding sexual violence “abhorrent,” you’re now actively engaging with rape culture by pretending that literally no men in your life say misogynistic shit ever or even misinformation they may genuinely not understand is harmful and are pretending that I’ve in any way said you have to approach random men with a prepared gotcha interview to challenge rape culture.
Yeah dude, totally, you seem like the kind of guy who is really willing to live up to his morals. Would you shut up now? I don’t care about what you have to say besides, “sorry, I’ll try to learn more about this.”
Pretty sure that’s the like, one of the main things that sexual violence prevention education and research targets is that men are overwhelmingly complicit in rape culture.
This is shocking if true with any kind of recent data.
Don’t get me wrong I believe there was time this may have been true. Growing up in the 70s/80s there were definitely men that thought grabbing women’s asses was funny and treated drunk women as consenting… the movies “Revenge of the Nerds” and “Pretty in Pink” have some terrible examples of what some of the norms were. But is this true today? I feel like things are much better now but perhaps I’m just naive.
My brother in Christ, the President of the United States of America is a convicted rapist pedophile part of an international human trafficking ring. Rape culture is not just a term that refers to “when you rape someone and other men don’t stop you,” it describes cultural norms that facilitate gender based and sexual violence, like slut-shaming, victim blaming, objectifying women at all, devaluing women’s sexual pleasure. It also includes what is recognized as sexual violence. So, you mentioned someone grabbing a woman’s ass, which positions sexual assault in a workplace; probably the most common setting in our cultural imagination besides somewhere random by a stranger. Sexual violence is more likely to come from someone you know closely, like a friend, family member, or romantic/sexual partner. Your assumption of what rape culture is is itself an example of how it contributes to misunderstandings of what sexual violence is and therefore helps facilitate it through that misunderstanding. I think it’d be a tremendous lapse in awareness to suggest those are not normal things in this culture just because a handful of libs say they don’t like it that much anymore without doing anything to actually change that. Did you forget about fuggin’ Gamergate?
Since a lot of sexual violence prevention curricula are designed with student bodies in mind, as in a high school or university setting, much of the research conducted to educate on sexual violence prevention is therefore dedicated to getting men to fucking stop doing it, because they are overwhelmingly responsible for perpetration of sexual violence and reproduction of that culture.
Some basic sources to educate yourself and any others who come across this:
Sills, Sophie, Chelsea Pickens, Karishma Beach, et al. 2016. “Rape Culture and Social Media: Young Critics and a Feminist Counterpublic.” Feminist Media Studies (Abingdon) 16 (6): 935–51. https://doi.org/10.1080/14680777.2015.1137962.
Henry, Nicola, and Anastasia Powell, eds. 2014. Preventing Sexual Violence : Interdisciplinary Approaches to Overcoming a Rape Culture. Palgrave Macmillan.
Fanghanel, Alexandra, and Alexandra Fanghanel. 2018. “How to Break a Rape Culture: Gendered Fear of Crime and the Myth of the Stranger-Rapist.” In The Routledge International Handbook on Fear of Crime, 1st ed., edited by Murray Lee and Gabe Mythen. Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315651781-29.
You need to understand just how pervasive it is, to the point that most men you know over a certain age (let’s say 25) have absolutely raped someone by accident, with the word rape being defined as sex without explicit and enthusiastic consent.
Most rape is not ugly, most rape is not violent, most rape is clumsy and grey-area because someone pushed boundaries and the other person didn’t communicate them or didn’t feel safe saying “stop”. Most men who have raped are not bad men, they were not properly educated on consent, hence the huuuge focus on teaching people about consent at a very young age. When everyone understands consent, we are able to prevent these situations.
Like fuck, there are still so many people out there who will say asking for consent “ruins the mood”, which is something they were taught to feel by popular culture (movies, etc.), and this is how rape culture is perpetuated. We are all complicit until we are all serious about learning about rape culture and how it invades our media, and calling out our friends when they make stupid jokes that also perpetuate rape culture. Treating rape like it’s all violent is also perpetuating rape culture, because it ignores all the times it is not violent, which is most rapes.
You’re not complicit just because you’re a man. You can’t take responsibility for billions of men.
You’re not complicit just for being a man. You’re complicit if you allow the behaviour in your presence. When dudes make offhand comments, call them out, even if it’s your buddy and there’s plausible deniability (which they use to avoid repercussions, social or otherwise).
Make your buddies feel shame for toeing the line or making shit jokes. If you surround yourself with so many people who don’t do that that you don’t even have the opportunity to call anyone out, you’re already doing a good job.
I voiced my displeasure, unfortunately, no one gives a shit what I think.
On top of that, I got rape threats against me as well, so yee.
Going for the endgame instead.
Keep doing it.
You think no one gives a shit what you think? They care more what you think than what women think, so push through the discomfort and keep doing it.
I don’t know what the “endgame” is, but that discomfort is literally how rape culture is perpetuated. It’s too uncomfy to call them out so they think nobody minds, and if you keep associating with them and not calling them out, they’ll think you agree with them. Do you want that?
They dig their heels in when called out because they feel uncomfortable when called out, and they fucking should feel uncomfortable, so keep doing it.
My life is pretty much min-maxxed. Should things go my way, I will have no contact with them.
I’m going for something that I just explain as Solarpunk.
You aren’t complicit because you’re a man, not to belittle your feelings though. I get uncomfortable around generalised terms in regards to gender issues, because I was always told never to do that, but it’s something I similarly have to deal with.
Sometimes the conversation doesn’t require your voice, and that’s okay. Ideal even. If there are people with more skin in the game, they’re more than welcome to have their say in my eyes.
What a terrible analogy. Cannibalism can be, arguably, justified. Starving people will do things to survive. I don’t really care what happens to my body after I die and don’t hold dead bodies to be especially sacred. I can consent to being eaten after I die.
There’s no argument, no circumstances, no valid logic that can say rape is ok.
This is one of those replies that misses the forest for the trees.
Except not really cause men love to argue about semantics and technicallities. So the metaphor should be man proof as well as accurate.
This comment is a sweeping generalization, and still qualifies as sexist. Being deliberately misandristic isn’t going to help anyone.
it certainly helps bring awareness to the fact that men are literally trained from birth to provide responses such as these to downplay women’s experiences.
believe it or not, many men are not aware of this, and think they are being clever or playing devils advocate, when in reality, it aims to invalidate entire scenarios on a “technicality”.
honestly if you think a proven statement like men invalidating women’s experiences is sexist or is misandry you should probably take a step back and realize you’re one of them.
I want to empathize with you because the issues you describe clearly do exist in some, probably most, societies and in large parts, but if you can’t see it’s legitimately sexist and generalized… I’m not sure what I could say to alleviate that bais for you. Like, it’s just a simple truth that you’re painting with far too broad a brush.
I see your point and I am tempted to refute it but I don’t have any way to do so without giving you the sensation I’m an horrible person
Hungry and horny, eh?
I’m starving for some sex
I think the important thing is just the repulsion to the idea of cannibalism. You wouldn’t think at a party about trying to drug someone so you could eat them, just the thought is horrifying. Literally the only situation it’d come to your mind as a possibility is one of the most desperate times.
That’s how terrible rape as a concept should be. Literally bordering on psyche-breaking. Doesn’t matter how similar the concepts are, it’s our reactions to the concepts that matters.
The fuck are you on about? Reproduction is what drives each and every organism on this planet. Of course rape can be rationalised, just like every other human/animal behaviour.
By your own logic, that justifies canabalism if you’re dead, you’re justifying the rape of your corpse.
Necrophilia is one of those taboos where the point is protection of the people still living, not the dead person.
My husband saw this quote and his immediate response was “No. Cannibalism has no personal place in our minds. Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as obscene as castration.”
Hey, castration ain’t so bad! Don’t knock it til you’ve tried it! 🤣
Well sadly many societies still engage in forced castration or genital mutilation
Bestiality is another good option imo.
Well we kill and eat animals so by that logic… I don’t think you’d want to go there.
I’m not sure that’s an argument you want to make.
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Beastiality is a subset of rape IMO, at least I’d see nothing wrong with it if animals could consent
Great, now the manosphere is going to start advocating for cannibalism
If the files told anything, it’s that eating human flesh is one of the gazillionaire’s delicacies.
Hey, hey, hey. Don’t equate cannibalism with that heinous shit
No I’m Victorious Phoenix
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1QoeKMD5dwnWBB6gHOFgY4uKJOXKg8CPGDu-dE5UsisQ/edit?usp=drivesdk
You’re no Phoenix
You shoulda seen what I used to say about kids. That’s buried seven to twelve years ago on r/ShrugLifeSyndicate, which is where the CIA started making me into what I am today, which is a cop, I think…
The problem with both is consent.
Not necessarily. One can consent to both. Moreso, there are edge cases. You get abandoned on an island with a dead stranger, I can find moral permissibility in eating them to survive; I wpuld want them to eat my body if reversed. I cannot think of a single edge case where raping a living or dead person is morally permissible. Like, this is basic philosophy; thinking. You didn’t think. You just regurgitated an opinion. You’re still a child. Fucking work on yourself!
Look man… This ain’t a fair comparison. How’s a guy to eat the rich when you compare it to rape so casually!?
How about we feed the rich to literal pigs? A nice cruel irony to enjoy.
The pigs can eat cake I need sustenance!!!
Oh great, now they’re going to start eating women, too.
Gonna get really confusing re-checking if a dude means he ate her out or ate her out.
Start?
I never understood why human and social interactions isn’t an obligatory course on schools all over the world. Not just how yo treat women, but how to treat anyone, doesn’t matter their gender, skin color, etc…
That would be part of learning Critical Thinking Skills, which conservatives oppose, because they feel it teaches children to resist authority, which it does.
Turns out compromising with the ‘make things worse’ ideology makes them worse.
One time in a “religion” course, which was more abstract than usual, we had those ethics lessons. It wasn’t about typical Christian religion or anything like that, just about ethics. I think that would make a nice course by itself. It was a derivation about just doing “decent” human stuff.
I took Anthropology of Religion 101 in community college and it would be my pick for “things that should be taught in high school that aren’t even remotely mentioned”. It covered ethics from a social angle that is very relatable. Runner up would be basic household accounting.
But that might make you less of an exploiter. Maybe even a communist. You don’t want that, do you?
I think it should be a normal part of everyone’s upbringing at home, and if there’s something like that at school, it would only be in addition to that.
I think this is out of touch.
Literally every young man you go ask will confidently affirm “of course rape is bad”
The issue is they don’t know what counts as rape.
“What if theyre really into you but also really drunk, but asks you to have set with them?”
“What about if theyre seventeen and you are nineteen but you are their coach?”
“What if you are both super high?”
“What if she says no at first but after you are persistent for an hour and she gives up and lets you have sex with her”
“What if you are both adults but you are her manager at work?”
Theres a lot of scenarios that are, indeed, rape, but a lot of young men would be shocked to learn that count.
I think some of your examples are poor. Managers and co-workers can hook up if they are consenting. Yes the manager has power over them, but especially in a big company that power isn’t majorly significant. Its also possible the underling is sleeping with the manager consentually for their own benefit and gain. Power dynamics can be bad but are not inherently rape.
Now that manager starts using raises, prefered shifts or whatever else to gain sex, thats a different story.
For inedbriation like if we are both super high, first time is questionable, but sexual partners that have been together for years and get high every day? Probably okay in most scenarios.
I never said all of my examples were rape, merely that young men would struggle and argue over which is which, because of a lack of education.
Many young and even grown men will even argue zero of the examples are rape (definitely incorrect)
Which is imo the real issue. This should be pretty decidedly taught in schools so both men and women grow up knowing what rape even is.
The way you phrased your comment didn’t make that clear. It reads as if you are listing scenarios that count as rape, not factors that should be considered.
I suspect this is not consistent across jurisdictions or fields.
Pretty sure I’ve seen the ‘both parties super high on the regular -> still rape’ in several trainings, for eg.
If both parties being high is an exclusive factor for rape then nearly every couple I know is raping each other weekly. It does depend on the context and relationship but as i said in my original comment, an established stoner couple is usually able to consent while stoned. Its not the same as getting someone stoned for the first time and taking advantage of them.
For example I’m fine having sex while I’m stoned, however i wouldn’t consent to it while high on physchedlics. My partners consent and condition would of course ve important there as well. If i learned being stoned was akin to being blackout for them, i wouldn’t feel comfortable or confident in their consent.
Its probably taught so that when in doubt you just don’t do it.
Absolutely not consistent, I know some people who think manager/employee is terrible. You’re kind of pushing your own narrative on this and assuming the general public feel the same
Terrible does not equal rape. It can be bad while still being consentual.
My point is, your view is not the view of the general public. You’re speaking like it is
Most of those examples aren’t rape.
In my country, a bit more than half are.
However the point Im making is if I asked a random collection of young men here to identify which is which, most of them would get most of the answers wrong, and theyd argue over it.
Because theres basically zero education on the topic. Not exactly there fault per-se, Im moreso calling out the government for failing our youth on this.
Ill also note that most young women would also probably get a lot of the answers wrong too…
“What if theyre really into you but also really drunk, but asks you to have set with them?”
Here. Have Set with them.
I think you’re ignoring the aspects of rape culture and assuming the issue is only ignorance.
As a man, with many male friends, and having grown up deeply entrenched in aforementioned culture.
Id put it at genuinely around 90% outright ignorance.
Schools just literally do not teach this, parents dont teach it, for a lot of men they never actually get any education on the manner.
Period.
So the only education they get is internet influencer propaganda of the Andrew Tate garbage variety and that is basically all they have to work with.
So lets not pretend its terribly surprising when young men grow up in those conditions and go on to become awful individuals, what exactly did we expect to happen?
Absolutely agreed. I’m certain that the 16 year old guy who coerced me into doing things when I was 14 wouldn’t consider himself a sexual abuser. Doesn’t matter how many times I said “no,” doesn’t matter how he used emotional manipulation (“if you loved me you’d do it”) and comparisons to his ex (“she never had a problem with it”) when I had zero interest. I wasn’t ready. I told him I wasn’t. He didn’t care, he just wanted his dick wet. It was normal in his eyes, and he was ready to weaponize my “prudishness” against me because he had more social clout.
Fuck rape culture. I wish he’d been taught right from wrong. I was terrified to tell anyone about what happened, expecting more shame on me for what happened. I only started talking about it years later, as an adult.
I never thought about it that way. There’s nothing physically stopping cannibalism, so it’s horrifying to us due to almost ubiquitous social pressure.
So clearly we have the capability to make these changes and society just doesn’t see it as important. Maybe that should give me hope but honestly this just makes me more disgusted.
There isn’t exactly a physical/psychological base drive to eat other people though. People desire sex. They do not generally desire eating someone, and are generally well fed. If you took a sample of everyone who has ever been starving to death, I think you would find a much higher preponderance of cannibalism.
Not disagreeing necessarily, just pointing out that there is a slightly different reason for the two things happening.
I agree, you see cannibalism at higher rates with starving people. However, there’s literally no one who is dying of horny.
Hypothetically, if we were able to get the same level of repulsion in people, to the act of SA, then there’d essentially never be a scenario where an urge - strong enough to overcome that repulsion - could come about.
Oh, there could very well be a base drive for cannibalism. We can test ancient archaeological sites for cannibalism. When humans eat other humans, it leaves distinct traces in human waste that can be preserved in the fossil record. You can tell what an ancient human ate by analyzing their fossilized poop. And cannibalism was very common in pre-history, in societies all over the world. We’re all descended from cannibals.
Worse still, it wasn’t usually about food. It was usually done for power, war, dominance, and religious reasons.
Most of cannibalism throughout human history was not due to hunger. The Aztecs didn’t build a skull pyramid because they were a bit peckish.
You don’t feel an urge to just take a little nibble?
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I think that cannibalism is acceptable in extreme circumstances.
That other shit though can fuck all the way off.
Yeah, maritime survival, stranded in the woods, etc, it happens a lot. I’d bet that every life death situation regarding starvation always turns to canablism.
I would absolutely try cannibalism, if I had consent from the person and they were going to die anyways, and it was prepared by a professional chef… And I had some salt in case it was too bland
I would not because prion diseases are fuckin scary
I mean, if you want it badly enough, you probably could. People have taken home amputated limbs before. I suppose you could put an ad out saying you would offer some large sum of money to anyone who will give you their amputated leg or something. And just tell them in advance you fully intend to BBQ and eat it. Just do your due diligence and make damn sure the limb is being removed for legitimate medical reasons and that you’re not effectively paying someone thousands to chop off their own leg.
I really hate how society deals with rape. It’s like 1\3 of the time it’s mentioned it’s part of a joke.
How about making it as unthinkable to men as it is to women, whatever that is? Why not hold men and women to the same standard? Women are not more entitled to safety than men are.
Not sure why you are getting downvoted. Equal treatment for men and women should be celebrated. Everyone should be thought rape is wrong.
